There are many ways to begin your smoking cessation journey, but not all approaches work equally well for everyone. The most effective method depends on your lifestyle, your triggers, and how ready you are to make a change. However, research and real-world success stories consistently show that some methods lead to higher quit rates than others.
Below, we break down the strategies most commonly associated with success so you can decide which path is right for you.
1. Nicotine Replacement Therapy (NRT)
Nicotine patches, gum, lozenges, nasal sprays, and inhalers remain among the most successful evidence-based tools for smoking cessation.
Why NRT Works
Instead of forcing your body to go from regular nicotine exposure to zero overnight, NRT helps smooth the transition. You receive measured, lower doses of nicotine without the harmful chemicals found in cigarettes.
Over time, you reduce your dosage in a controlled way until your body no longer depends on nicotine at all. This method helps:
- Ease withdrawal symptoms
- Reduce intense cravings
- Break the psychological association with cigarettes
- Provide structure to the quitting process
It isn’t completely risk-free, but for many smokers, NRT offers the best combination of convenience, safety, and success.
2. Trigger Identification and Avoidance
Even the strongest quit plan can crumble without managing your smoking triggers. These triggers may include:
- Stressful situations
- Drinking alcohol or coffee
- Driving or talking on the phone
- Work breaks or social rituals
- Boredom or downtime
As nicotine leaves your system, these triggers can become even more powerful.
How to Make This Method Work
The key is to interrupt the automatic link between a situation and reaching for a cigarette.
Examples:
- If you smoke while on the phone → keep a stress ball or doodle pad nearby
- If lunch breaks are a problem → use that time for a walk, stretching, or a quick errand
- If stress makes you crave cigarettes → switch to deep breathing, short breaks, or mindfulness apps
Avoiding triggers isn’t forever—just until your brain learns new habits.
3. Quitting Cold Turkey
Surprisingly, quitting cold turkey remains one of the most common ways people succeed long-term. According to data from the American Cancer Society, over 80% of people who have successfully quit did so by stopping abruptly.
Why Cold Turkey Works for Some
Cold turkey is not easy and isn’t recommended for everyone. But for those who succeed, the approach usually involves:
- High motivation and a non-negotiable personal commitment
- Social support from friends, family, or online communities
- A clear plan for handling cravings and withdrawal
- Strong reasons for quitting, repeated daily
Many people choose cold turkey because cutting back slowly feels harder or prolongs withdrawal. But success with this method requires a support system and mental preparedness, not just a sudden decision.
4. Gradual Reduction (Cutting Back)
For heavy or long-term smokers, quitting gradually can make the transition more manageable. This approach involves reducing cigarette use step by step—for example:
- From a pack per day → half a pack
- From half a pack → a few cigarettes daily
- From daily smoking → occasional smoking
- Eventually → zero cigarettes
Why Gradual Reduction Helps
- It gently lowers nicotine levels
- Cravings often become more manageable
- Withdrawal symptoms tend to be milder
- It can build confidence and momentum
This strategy works best when paired with tracking tools, scheduled reduction goals, and (ideally) behavioral support.
The Bottom Line: Your Best Method Is the One You’ll Stick With
Every smoker’s journey is unique. Some people quit cold turkey, others rely on nicotine replacement, and many combine multiple methods. The most effective strategy is the one that fits your lifestyle and gives you the highest chance of staying smoke-free long-term.
Consider asking yourself:
- What has failed for me in the past?
- Which method feels realistic for my daily routines?
- Do I need support, structure, or accountability?
- Am I more successful with gradual change or decisive action?
Whichever path you choose, remember: quitting isn’t a single event—it’s a process. And with the right tools and support, smoking cessation is possible for everyone.
ommunity Stories: How Real People Are Quitting Smoking
There’s no single “right” way to quit. The comments we receive show just how personal — and emotional — the process can be. Here are some of the most common patterns that show up in real smokers’ stories.
1. Faith, Hope, and Prayer
Many people lean heavily on faith when quitting. Some are facing heart tests, abnormal EKGs, or stress tests and feel terrified about going a single night without cigarettes or caffeine. They talk about:
- Praying through cravings
- Reminding themselves of all the times their prayers were answered before
- Asking others to “please pray for me” as they try to put cigarettes down for good
For some, viewing quitting as a spiritual turning point — getting free from “this killer” and trusting that they’re not doing it alone — is a powerful motivator.
2. Health Scares That Change Everything
A lot of people don’t truly commit until something serious happens:
- A long-time smoker who quit cold turkey after being diagnosed with cancer and starting chemotherapy.
- People newly told they have COPD or emphysema, told by doctors that stopping now could slow or partially reverse damage.
- Family members watching parents or grandparents die from COPD or lung cancer, and promising to quit in their memory.
These stories share a common message:
“This is real. This can kill you. Don’t wait until it’s too late.”
3. Cold Turkey vs. Cutting Down vs. NRT vs. Medications
The comment threads show every possible mix of methods:
- Cold turkey:
Some insist it’s the best way, especially if you can clear your schedule of major stress for the first couple of weeks. They describe the first days as brutal but say that by two weeks, the physical dependence eases and the smell of smoke becomes disgusting. - Cutting down:
Others try cutting down first, but many admit that “two to four a day” often slides back into a pack. For some, it’s all-or-nothing; for others, gradual reduction plus a quit date works. - Patches, gum, and NRT:
Several people report success with nicotine patches and gum, sometimes after failing with cold turkey. For some, wearing a patch and chewing gum for breakthrough cravings was the combination that finally made it manageable. - Chantix and other meds:
A few long-term, heavy smokers credit Chantix (sometimes at a reduced dose to minimize side effects) plus a patch for finally getting them off cigarettes. They admit the side effects can be rough, but for them, it was worth it. - Vaping:
Opinions are split. Some say switching to vaping helped them go smoke-free for weeks or months and that they feel, smell, and breathe better. Others warn that vaping causes relapses, doesn’t break the addiction, and may bring its own risks. Several commenters say they use vaping only as a temporary bridge, not a permanent solution.
The takeaway from all this:
Different bodies and brains respond differently. If one method fails, that doesn’t mean you’ve failed — it means you may need a different tool.
4. Emotional Storms, Anger, and Relationships
A lot of people describe intense mood swings:
- Feeling “like I want to hit something” on day one
- Being called “a major bitch” by unsupportive partners
- Feeling so agitated that spouses eventually hand over a pack just to stop the fighting
Some important patterns here:
- Supportive partners help: encouraging, patient, and proud of each smoke-free day.
- Unsupportive partners (who mock or belittle) can make quitting harder than it has to be.
- Some people realize they may need to change more than just their smoking habits — including who they spend their time with.
Others share practical tools for managing anger and tension during early withdrawal:
- Walking
- Yoga and deep breathing
- Drinking water and juice
- Word searches or simple puzzles
- Talking to themselves like a coach instead of a critic
5. When Your Partner Still Smokes
A recurring problem:
“What do you do if your life partner is a heavy smoker with no desire to quit?”
People in this situation describe:
- Cravings triggered every time the partner lights up
- Feeling resentful, scared, or alone
- Wondering if they have to choose between their relationship and their health
Some strategies that readers mention:
- Setting smoke-free areas (no smoking in the house or car)
- Having honest conversations about why you’re quitting
- Asking partners to support the quit even if they aren’t ready themselves
There’s no easy answer here, but acknowledging the situation is a vital first step.
6. Staying Quit vs. Getting Quit
Over and over, people say the same thing:
“Quitting isn’t my biggest problem. Staying quit is.”
They describe:
- Quitting for months or years
- Then having “just one cigarette” at a party or during a stressful moment
- Sliding quietly back into full-time smoking
Some lessons that come up repeatedly:
- Alcohol can be a huge trigger. Some people avoid drinking early in their quit because “beer + cigarettes” always went together.
- Having a clear rule (“I don’t smoke, not even one”) seems to work better than “I’ll only smoke on special occasions.”
- Posting your quit story, joining forums, or staying in community helps you remember why you quit in the first place.
7. Family, Money, and the “Why” Behind Quitting
Many commenters have very specific reasons that finally push them to quit:
- Wanting to live long enough to see their grandchildren grow up
- Struggling to climb stairs, breathe, or sleep and realizing their body is worn out from smoking
- Watching cigarette prices climb to $10–$30 per pack and realizing how much of their income is being burned – literally
- Being afraid of leaving their kids without a parent
Those reasons matter. When cravings hit, the people who stay quit are often the ones who keep repeating their “why” to themselves — out loud if they have to.
8. What These Stories Have in Common
The specific methods are all over the map: cold turkey, patches, gum, Chantix, vaping, acupuncture, prayer, and more. But nearly every successful story shares three ingredients:
- A clear decision:
“I’m done. Not ‘someday’—now.” - A method that fits them:
That might be NRT, a book-based method, a support group, a faith-based approach, or a combination. - Support and accountability:
Partners, community, forums, quit coaches, or even just one person checking in can make the difference between a slip and a full relapse.
Day One – My Quit Plan With Gum & a Quit Coach
RobertDelCastillo – Original Post
Not quite done with my first day. Started 09/29/2015 at 12:00 noon. I’m using nicotine gum and signed up with a quit coach.
I’m going to use the cut-down method: starting with 5 smokes a day and cutting down by one every three days. That’s my plan and I’m sticking to it.
RobertDelCastillo – Update
Day one almost done. I can do it.
LauraJane – Reply
How’s it going? Today is day one for me too.
Cnnie – Reply
Hang in there. Breathe, do some light yoga, drink water, start juicing. Picture yourself healthier and more energetic.
Himanshu – Reply
Just have trust in yourself.
jaison – Reply
Keep a pen between your fingers when you feel like smoking and think about your loved ones.
“Breaking Up” With Cigarettes Like a Bad Relationship
Marsha – Original Post
I smoked my last cigarette 49 hours ago. I spent my last week of smoking arguing with my cigarettes until we broke up Monday night.
I told them: you stink, you stole days and dollars, my taste and smell. I’m over this relationship. I savored my last smoke like a long kiss, then threw it in the garbage and went to bed.
I woke up 8 hours later, already 8 hours smoke-free, and went about my day. The cravings tried to distract me, but I grabbed a word search. Next time I took a walk.
You’re not coming back. We’re over. Cigarettes are an a**hole. I’m done with this pseudo long-term dysfunctional relationship. You’re a liar, a cheat, a thief and a fool.
m – Reply
This is honestly the best reply I’ve seen in a long time. How has your journey been going so far? Successful? Tough? Any withdrawals or relapses?
It’s all trial and error, but you’ve got the right attitude. You’ll get it, I know you can.
cathi – Reply
This is what I’m going with. Thank you for sharing!
Chris – Reply
Awesome way to go about it! I hope it’s working for you. Today is my first day.
Ruffer – Reply
LOVE IT, Marsha. Kick his a$$ to the curb!
Rockl – Reply
Really amazing response. I hope you stuck with it and didn’t go back to that abusive relationship that wastes your time and money.
jo – Reply
Be strong.
Billie – Reply
That’s awesome! This is going to be my approach too. I’m going out of town this weekend with no way to buy more of these little bastards.
I’ve been trying for nearly a year and always give up on myself. No more. They will not beat me.
Dee – Reply
Great way to look at it, like quitting a bad relationship. 🙂
Deborah – Reply
Marsha, it’s now late August. I pray you’re still kicking that cigarette’s ass.
I don’t smoke but my husband has his whole life and today he gave them up. He’s having a really hard time and is battling COPD. I pray he can fight this.
Hitesh – Reply
Deborah, good wishes for your husband. My father had COPD too and he’s no longer with me. I’m also planning to quit these idiots.
Adler – Reply
You can’t battle COPD – it just keeps getting worse. The cigarettes won.
JenniferHupp – Reply
I love this! Very clever.
Billings – Reply
I’m 48 hours cig-free. I’d quit for 3 years and then started back. I know, stupid.
Prayer is helping me. Every time I crave, I ask God to take the urge away and I talk to myself like you did:
Do you want to stink, be broke, or be on oxygen like your patients because of cigarettes? Not worth it.
RiccoShade – Reply
Marsha, I take my hat off to you – bulls-eye. You’ve got the eye of the tiger. Let us know how you ended that relationship. Mad respect.
Elia – Reply
Are you still winning the battle, Marsha?
Stephany – Reply
I really, really love this. The BEST advice I’ve seen so far. Well done!
Jay – Reply
Yes, tell them off! I did this every day for a month. After that, when a craving hit I’d say, “Who are you talking to? I don’t smoke.”
I also used acupuncture in my ears, which lessened the cravings so I could use my willpower on the habit. I’m in month 7 with no desire to smoke. I smoked for 30 years and was scared to quit – didn’t know what joy, peace, happiness, freedom felt like. Now I’m calmer and not rushing life to get a smoke.
Barbara – Reply
Good for you! It’s like brain manipulation – getting yourself to actually hate cigarettes. Great idea, I’m going to try it.
Faith, Prayer & Quitting Smoking
SharonKarawan – Original Post
Please pray for me. Dear God, I’m sick of smoking. As soon as I open my eyes I grab one, and I don’t even like smoking anymore!
I haven’t started my journey yet but I know I have the greatest help of all: God. The more prayers the better. Thank you all.
ConnieMoton – Reply
I will be praying for you! I’m having a stress test this week and can’t smoke or have caffeine from midnight the night before.
I’m anxious about it, but I know God is my only help and wants me free of this killer. He has blessed me so much in my life, so I’m reminding myself of all the answered prayers.
Please pray for me too. Let’s keep in touch.
Cindy – Reply
Sharon, I’m in week nine and it’s been the worst. I’m praying for both of us.
Tami – Reply
Week nine?? Gracious, I’m only on day five and feel so jittery. I’m praying for God to help me. I’ve smoked for 37 years, but it’s time to quit – not just for me, but for my family.
NASSER – Reply
GOD BLESS YOU!!!
VictoriaMagaldi – Reply
Praying for you. Hopefully a smoke-free life will be your Christmas gift to yourself, your family, and your friends. God bless.
Tammy – Reply
That’s the best response I’ve heard. Asking God to help you and me both through this. I’m 53 and just had an abnormal EKG. I have to do tests to see if there’s blockage or need for open heart surgery.
My doctor prescribed a beta blocker, nitroglycerin, and other meds. Echocardiogram and chemical stress test next. Not worth smoking. God bless.
Steve – Reply
I quit drinking 10 years ago with AA. Went back 4 months ago because I was smoking a lot of pot. I quit pot 3½ months ago and my memory is already better.
I smoked 2 packs a day for 36 years and quit tobacco cold turkey 18 days ago. Not as big a problem as I thought.
I have faith in God and through prayer I’ve quit all three habits plus gambling. I was agnostic before, but belief in God has been the key for me.
Darla – Reply
I’m ready to quit but the side effects make it harder. My husband isn’t as eager to quit and that makes it rougher. Pray for me! I’m praying we all defeat this bully called smoking.
Heather – Reply
Good luck – you can do this. Just remember how much money you’re going to save. 🙂
Vaping vs Smoking – Does It Help You Quit?
Jeff – Original Post
Vaping! I realize that switching to vaping is basically just trading one habit for another, but at least vaping is far less detrimental to your health than smoking.
If you can’t muster the willpower to quit completely, you should at least switch to a vape.
Mike – Reply
It’s just as damaging, just in different ways, and there hasn’t been enough research yet to show all the effects. It’s better than smoking strictly because there’s less second-hand smoke, but until we know more it can’t really be considered a healthy option.
John – Reply
Actually there has been a good amount of research showing it’s better for you and helps people quit smoking. The only group actively fighting vaping is pharmaceutical companies who would lose money if everyone quit by vaping.
tasha – Reply
I’ve been smoking for 15 years, a pack a day for the last three. I started vaping and it’s been awesome. I’m on 6 mg nicotine juice and I puff less because it’s stronger.
Three weeks smoke-free and I haven’t wanted a cig. I took one drag off a friend’s cigarette and it tasted terrible compared to my fruity vape. My husband tells me I smell better, my teeth are whiter, and my car smells great. I pray for many more weeks.
Nomi – Reply
Total nicotine detox, day five. The abdominal pain, brain fog, muscle tension, headaches, anxiety, mood swings, insomnia… it was too much on top of my chronic pain and migraines.
I caved and had a cigarette, and I feel much better now. Cold turkey isn’t for everyone; it can trigger other health issues. I’m considering vaping again. I have to quit, but nothing has worked long-term.
Moe – Reply
I did it with vaping, but have had relapses. That day-5 migraine is brutal. The stuff they put in cigarettes is a lot like certain antidepressant and analgesic chemicals; trade secrets hide that.
By day 3 you need to stay ahead of the pain – ibuprofen, beta blockers (doctor-prescribed), and emergency migraine meds can help. You have to trick your brain and talk yourself through it. It won’t go away without extreme commitment, but you can do it.
Trish – Reply
I’m 56 and smoked since I was 14. I quit for a year, then started “just a few puffs” and ended up full-time smoking again.
I’m 10 days smoke-free now because I got a chest infection and was too sick to go buy more. I also found a lump in my breast – it wasn’t cancer, thank God, but it scared me.
I’m using an e-cigarette now. For me it’s better than gum or patches, which gave me nightmares. It’s a head game.
h2 id=”pavlok-shocks-aversion-devices-worth-it”> Pavlok, Shocks & Aversion Devices – Worth It?
Nick – Original Post
A major reason it’s hard to break a bad habit is your brain believes the habit is pleasurable even if you’re not happy with it.
I’m working with a company called Pavlok that helps with bad habits. It uses beeps, vibrations, and shocks to create negative associations with the habit you’re trying to eliminate.
If you’re ready to quit, this might be the best way to do it.
ElaineStrickland – Reply
So, I’m a two-pack-a-day smoker. Could I really quit using this system? How do I start?
Marie – Reply
Hi Nick,
Please tell us more about this. I think for my brain, you’re right on the money.
ReneeCalpin – Reply
How? I like the sound of that. Where would I get the device or whatever is used?
Sky – Reply
Where is this available? What are the side effects?
Kristen – Reply
Can you give me more information? It sounds interesting and effective, kind of like those bed-wetting devices that set an alarm off – they worked wonders for my brother.
TerenceMcKenna – Reply
You may want to look up the “Schick” company that had clinics using similar methods back in the 70s and 80s.
Zach – Reply
Studies for the past three decades show that aversion therapy isn’t healthy for just about anything. Pavlok has no solid studies showing success – just anecdotes.
Please stop trying to sell people a $200 torture bracelet.
K – Reply
I tried the Pavlok. It’s $200 and I used it for a month with no results. Not for everyone, I guess.
TheUltimateGray – Reply
Is that like short burst shock treatment every time somebody smokes?
NotStupid – Reply
Your company was on Shark Tank and got terrible reviews. You have to shock yourself – self-punishment if you do the bad habit.
There was no data showing your product works, only that similar ideas worked on animals or in old studies, none done with Pavlok itself.
cigssuck – Reply
The free version is just to smack yourself in the face a few times every time you pick up a cig. 😆
Allen Carr, Books & “Easy Way” Methods
Jojo – Original Post
Please read Allen Carr’s How to Stop Smoking the Easy Way. A true blessing. I quit so much easier and more permanently than any other method. Take your time reading it, but not too slow.
clyde – Reply
Ever hear of The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr?
No shocks, no willpower, no weight gain, no stress. It works. Smoke while you read it and quit when you’re done. I like easy answers.
Colm – Reply
Allen Carr’s Easy Way seems to have it all. You still have to fight cravings, but there’s almost pleasure in fighting the fight. One week in and it’s working for me.
GaryWood – Reply
I went to an Allen Carr seminar and it really is good. The main idea is being a happy non-smoker, which I found hard to imagine before. If you can get your head around that, it’s a success. Good luck.
Dee – Reply
How’s it going? Allen’s book is great!
C_Father – Reply
So true and so funny – I laughed. The mindset shift is powerful.
Cold Turkey, Tough Love & Mindset
JoeRoberts – Original Post
Quitting cold turkey doesn’t require willpower, it requires the will to quit – that’s different. “Willpower” implies you’ve deprived yourself of something. You haven’t.
Smoking does nothing positive for anyone, ever. Nicotine creates the illusion of relieving stress when it actually causes it. It also tricks you into thinking it’s vital for enjoyment. It isn’t.
No one needs willpower to stay quit once they’ve decided. They need gratitude for quitting and the ability to rejoice in each new smoke-free day. You’re not losing a friend; you’re getting rid of an antisocial parasite.
Instead of clinging to your quit “like grim death,” realize your quit has probably saved you from a grim death.
ZenithSmith – Reply
Weaning “slowly but surely” just drags out the pain. About 20 minutes after smoking you start subconsciously withdrawing – that’s why pack-a-day smoking is so common.
Nicotine isn’t alcohol or heroin; there’s no physical danger in simply stopping. You have to truly want to quit for yourself and understand how nicotine and smoking affect your brain.
Knowledge is power here. Smoking equals premature death; no one ever lived longer by smoking. Stop making excuses. It’s not as hard as we make it when we’re looking for reasons not to quit.
Even with anxiety, depression, fibromyalgia, IBS – you can still quit cold turkey. I’m living proof. You can’t excuse away lung cancer or COPD.
SondraTew – Reply
We all need more of that tough love. Thanks!
ClintLowe – Reply
Thank you for that. Great words of wisdom.
MUHSINAZIZ – Reply
So true, absolutely right. I felt the same. The 4th day feels like the beginning of a new life.
Jeannedarc – Reply
No matter what you’re quitting – drugs, alcohol, even dieting – there will be withdrawals. Mind over matter. It sucks, but it works.
Adler – Reply
Exactly. By definition, an addiction is difficult to quit, but many cigarette smokers won’t admit they’re addicts.
Alternative Methods – Acupressure, Acupuncture & Behavior Change
JanBrown – Original Post
The best way for me was acupressure. I had success, as did several people I know. No side effects.
SusanKennedy – Reply
Where can I find this type of treatment in Indiana?
Lisa – Reply
How do I do that?
Jay – Reply
I used acupuncture in the ears. It really lessened my cravings so I could focus my willpower on the habit itself. Seven months in and no desire for a smoke.
Chiara – Reply
Behavior modification works for most people, but you have to be committed to doing the work.
COPD, Grandkids & Quitting for Your Future
SandraSmith – Original Post
I need to stop. I want to live so I can see my grandchildren grow up.
SandraSmith – Follow-up
I went 3 days without smoking but had to have one.
Jackie – Reply
How is it going? Did you manage to quit? I feel the same – I want to see my grandchildren grow up.
I’ve cut down over the past three weeks. I now have emphysema with many unpleasant symptoms. Diagnosed about three weeks ago. I really need to quit too.
Sue – Reply
Me too. I’m 65 and just found out I have COPD. My doctor says it’s early and if I stop now it could improve. I’m having an awful time quitting.
Jamar – Reply
My grandmother died of COPD this past December at 69. We used to smoke together, along with my mom. Her last wish was for me to quit.
I went 8 months, then started again and now I’m trying again. COPD is not something to play with. You’re 65. Please quit now – don’t take another drag.
pauline – Reply
How does this way work? I want to quit – I have three different lung diseases.
Adler – Reply
You can’t battle COPD, it keeps getting worse. The cigarettes already won once it gets that far.
Patches, Chantix & Long-Term Smokers Trying Again
GaryWood – Original Post
My name is Gary. In 2012 I quit smoking for three years using the patch for three months and joining a quit timeline forum. That support was a massive help.
Eventually that forum closed overnight, but I stayed quit anyway… until one alcohol-fueled night when I thought “one cigarette won’t hurt.” I started smoking again 14 months ago.
On April 11, 2016 I put the patch on again and here I am on a new forum looking for help and guidance. I’m 55 and want to quit for good. I hope I get some replies; I have some knowledge and will try to help others too.
JanBrown – Short Reply
Keep going, Gary. It can be done.
stanley – Reply
Hi Gary, same here. Quit for 4 years, had a few drinks with “friends,” and now I’m back to a pack a day.
The last 6 days I’ve cut down to 2–4 a day. That doesn’t work for me – it’s all or nothing. I’ve got my patches again and set my quit date for May 2nd.
Have you set a date yet, or still in contemplation mode?
MikeNewsom – Reply
I started smoking at 15, now 58. I quit in 2011 for 10 months and then one stressful day picked one up again. I also drink beer and the two habits go hand in hand.
I’m up to 2 packs per day now. I want to retire in 5 years and don’t want to be dependent on cigarettes. I’ll probably have to give up drinking too.
I’m planning to set a date to quit and get my mind focused so I won’t give in. I wish you success with your quit.
Darlene – Reply
I’m on Chantix now for about 6 weeks and I think it’s finally working. I quit for 3 years using Chantix once before and then one day started smoking again.
This time I’ve promised myself: when I’m done, I’m done. No cheating. I’m 59 and in good health and want to keep it that way.
Janelle – Reply
I smoked heavily for 50 years, 2 packs a day. I tried many times and failed. What finally worked was Chantix plus the patch.
I couldn’t tolerate the full dose of Chantix, so I cut the pills in half and took half the prescribed dose. You can smoke the first week on Chantix, so I didn’t use a patch then. From week two on, I used both.
I didn’t need to wear the patch as long as recommended. I’ve been smoke-free for 14 months. I still think of cigarettes daily, but just as passing thoughts, not desperate cravings. It’s hard but worth it.
ConnieMoton – Reply
Thanks for sharing. I have to stop smoking in 4 days because of a stress test – no smoking or nicotine after midnight. My apartment building is going smoke-free soon too.
I’m scared, but I know I have to do this. I’m going to try the patch. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers and I’ll do the same for you.
Sisco – Reply
How are you doing now? I’m 54 and have smoked for 35 years. I’m on day two of quitting.
Heather – Short Reply
Good luck, you can do this. Think of all that money you’re going to save.
Triggers, Anger, Stress & Support
ChristinaMcDonald – Original Post
I stopped today and feel like I want to hit something. My boyfriend says I’m being a major bitch but I already know if I don’t quit now I never will. I’ve been smoking since 18 (I’m 30 now).
Any advice before I rip someone’s head off?
Beverly – Reply
Hope you’re doing better. We can help each other. So far I’m not being a bitch, but I do need encouragement.
BradleyBland – Reply
Don’t pick up another one. Or in 15 years you’ll be saying you started at 18 and now you’re 45 – that’s where I am.
Back then I wasn’t run down when I woke up, tired midday, winded after two flights of stairs, with no motivation to play with my kids.
It gets harder to bounce back as you get older. Hard truths, but sugarcoating this doesn’t help anyone.
Ruffer – Short Reply
Bradley – ditto. Thanks.
Phon – Reply
What can you say to encourage someone who’s been smoking 30+ years?
Eric – Reply
On top of ditching cigarettes, maybe ditch the boyfriend. A good BF should support you, not call you a bitch for trying to get healthy.
I just had a baby girl and always said I’d quit if I had a kid. No excuses now – my wife hates it too.
AndyWood – Reply
That’s me all over. The slightest thing triggers my temper. I’m a kitchen manager/chef in a 4-star hotel in Edinburgh – the most stressful environment I’ve worked in with triggers everywhere.
Smoker for 20 years. I find it really hard to stop.
Adler – Reply
Remember: non-smokers inhale your deadly breath and put up with your tantrums when you’re denied a smoke. You don’t have it as rough as you think.
Adler – Follow-up
Get a bicycle – and use it!
Cold Turkey vs Cutting Down – What’s Right for Me?
Gunjan – Original Post
I almost stopped smoking yesterday. Today I really want to smoke – my mouth is itching and I can’t concentrate on work. I tried chewing gum but it’s really hard.
I smoke one pack a day. Should I cut down first or quit suddenly? Please help.
shivam – Reply
Reducing hasn’t worked for me. You’re either a smoker or a non-smoker.
Don’t let your hard work go down the drain with even a puff. The first 3 days are hard, but from the 4th morning you’ll wake up so much fresher.
Make sure those 3 itchy days pay off by not giving in. Stay away from smoking zones and pity smokers as people who can’t control their minds and cravings.
Nomi – Reply
That might be true for some. I did 5 days completely nicotine-free, but the abdominal pain, fog, cramps, stabbing headaches, anxiety, agitation, and insomnia finally got to me – on top of chronic pain and migraines.
I caved and had a smoke and felt remarkably better. Cold turkey may be too much of a shock for some bodies and chronic conditions.
Moe – Reply
See my post in the vaping thread – the migraines are brutal. Sometimes you need meds and a gentler taper, not just “push through it.”
C_Father – Reply
Just a suggestion: could you reserve two cigs a night and do better physically? One after your last meal and one as a bedtime ritual.
That way you don’t rationalize more during the day. I also used kava kava for anxiety. Maybe cold turkey is too much right now; try strict limits.
Darla – Reply
I’m in the same boat. Ready to quit, but the side effects make everything harder, especially when your spouse isn’t quitting too. It’s tough.
Lara – Reply
Cold turkey isn’t for me either. My doctor put me on Wellbutrin to help quit, and I’ve had no strong cravings for two weeks.
Long-Term Smokers, Kids & Health Fears
Brandi – Original Post
I’m 38 and smoked since I was 16. I’m having trouble breathing and sleeping. Stairs leave me winded. I’ve had pneumonia twice this winter and can’t bounce back – I know it’s lung damage.
I have three kids (7, 5, 3) and want to see them grow up. I’m depressed thinking about what could happen and I’m still lighting up. I think about quitting but then smoke another one.
moose – Reply
First time posting anything like this. I’ve tried to quit many times and always fall off the wagon.
I have 3 beautiful little girls and have been smoking more than half my life. I have chest pains and can hardly breathe. I know it’s killing me but I keep doing it. I hope we both can quit.
Janelle – Reply
(see her Chantix + patch story above in Thread 10; fits here too as an encouragement)
Sarah – Reply
I’m 38 too and started smoking at 12. Most of my memories involve me smoking. I quit with patches and gum this time and it’s been surprisingly easy.
The gum helps with surprise cravings. When one hits, I take a deep breath, hold for 5 seconds and tell myself something encouraging.
I was a pack-a-day smoker with breathing and sleeping problems and a ton of anxiety. Within hours of patch + gum, I felt better. Cigarettes tricked me into thinking they made me feel good – they didn’t.
Just put a patch on and try the gum. It’s worth a shot.
Trish – Reply
(also in vaping thread, repeated here as support)
Lump scare + chest infection pushed me to finally stop. Sometimes fear is the push we need.
Darlene – Reply
I’m on Chantix again after relapsing. This time I’ve promised myself: no cheating. 59 and healthy – I want to stay that way.
Adler – Reply
I’m 70, never smoked, and did a 50-mile bike ride this morning. Still felt invigorated.
You’re still young and can have an exciting life if you put your health first. There’s nothing as pretty as a woman flushed from exercise and nothing as sordid as a woman with a cigarette hanging from her lips.
Tam – Reply
New to smoking but I smoke a lot. Why did I start this? It’s harmful, and yet I think about the “pleasure.” I need to defeat that. I’m realizing the “pleasure” is false.
Cole – Reply
You won’t always get pleasure from it. I’ve smoked 15 years and now I hate it. The early “pleasure” becomes disgust.
I’m in the early stages of my quit but I promise: eventually you’ll hate the habit as much as you need it.
Gary’s Quit Journal & Building a Support Community
Ruffer – Original Post
Gary! Please, YOU start a smoking forum.
If you’re not comp savvy (I’m not), start one using a Facebook page. You are the pro, right? Then post a link here so we can all find you.
I’ve been reading all these posts hoping to hear from someone who’s DONE it, I think you’re it! Do consider. And thx.
GaryWood – Reply
Not smoked since 11/4. I’m OK at the moment, the patches are going fine. It’s the triggers that worry me, like going out for a drink and wanting to smoke.
Having been through this before, I know that’s an illusion and we CAN control it. Cutting down is no good – it makes the cig seem like the be-all and end-all.A great idea is to save the money you’d spend on “the evil weed.” Over here in England my brand is £10 a pack – it adds up fast.
We’re on a good site here and we can beat this monster if we keep asking questions and collectively share answers. Cheers, Gary.
Victoria – Reply
Just letting you know your cry for help in slaying the beast has been heard. I’m on another quit too.
I decided CT was the way to go. Put them down almost 3 days ago and feel great with no withdrawal. I’m 45 and smoked most of 30 years.Good luck on your quit. You’re not alone. I choose me. Not one nasty puff. Not one.
Candy – Reply
I quit today using the patch. I’m 56 and have quit before with the patch for over a year, but my husband still smoked and during stress his cigs were too convenient.
This time he’s switching to an e-cig and only vaping outside (we never smoked in the house). Quitting is physically painful for me – cold-like symptoms – but I really want this to work.
Barbara (55) – Reply
I’m 55, smoked since about 13. I’ve quit many times, even for years, but always went back from stress, drinking with friends, or “just a hit.”
I’m on day 15 of the patch and it’s still super hard. Everything I did involved a smoke break. At work I walk on my breaks and lunch just to stay busy.
Today one little mess-up in plans and I turned into crazy “B”. I went for a long walk then spent the rest of the day in bed afraid anything would send me back to a cig.
It feels like my whole body is on pins and needles and one wrong word sets me off. I thought with the patch it wouldn’t be this bad. Anyone else feel like this even with NRT?
Steven – Reply
Gary, I read your post and have a question. Like alcohol, cigarettes are a terrible addiction. I’m an alcoholic and MUST attend AA meetings.
Are there Smokers Anonymous meetings anywhere? Is there an app that tracks your smoking and gradually reduces your intervals by telling you when to smoke?
If anyone knows of such an app, please post.
JacoVanHeerden – Reply
Gary, I also hate smoking and want to quit. Tried a few times but barely last 2 days. I get huge mood swings and shortness of breath.
Been smoking 30+ years and need to drop this habit seriously. When I don’t smoke I feel exhausted – maybe oxygen issues. I’ll try again soon.
Missy – Reply
I’m currently smoking 6 a day. Started at a pack and a half. On May 1st I will be smoke-free.
Tip: say the alphabet, and for each letter say a word that starts with that letter. It gets me through cravings and I rarely make it very far in the alphabet!
KD – Reply
OK, day 1. Pray for me.
Sisco – Reply
Hey KD, I’m on day 2. How are you making it?
NancyRush – Reply
How are you doing? I’ve tried over and over and only last one or two days, then bam, there I am again.
It’s so strange – each time I quit I get an overwhelming sense of fear I don’t understand.
GaryWood – Update
Hi Stanley (and everyone), I woke up thinking about a trip to Wales and the nicotine monster reared its head – I always link trips and “good times” with a smoke, my downfall.
Within 10 minutes of complaining to my wife that I “can’t live without a smoke,” the thought passed. Her comment: that’s what nicotine is doing to you.Nicotine is a tricky devil. I’m keeping the next patch by the bed so I can put it on immediately. One more week at this level, then I’ll drop to 14mg for three weeks and introduce Allen Carr’s Easy Way.
So far: 560 cigarettes not smoked, £280 saved, and I can actually breathe. All the best, Gary.
Ruffer – Reply
Thank you, Gary. You’re already a success story because you’ve made major lifestyle changes. We all need to hear it can be done. Keep updating – kudos!
“I Want to Quit but I Don’t Care Anymore” – Sharon’s Story
SharonDotson – Original Post
I’ve been smoking for 60 years and I’m 72. I have stage 2 COPD. I used Chantix and quit for 7 weeks – and then I felt like killing myself. If I’d had a gun, I would have.
I stopped the Chantix and wanted a cigarette so badly I started again. I sit in the house all day alone and I’m bored. My husband passed away. I never smoked in the house before, but this winter it was too cold to go outside, so now I smoke inside too.
I want to quit but can’t. I’ve tried so many times I feel like it doesn’t matter anymore. If I die, so what. I know it’s wrong not to care, but I really don’t. There’s no one to cook for or do things with. Any help will be appreciated.
(This thread is a good candidate for other community members to respond with empathy, hotline suggestions, and safer alternatives to Chantix in your forum.)
Thread 3: “Nine Days In and I’m a Mess” – Handling the Crazies
Amanda – Original Post
I’ve been smoke-free for 9 days. The first 3 were a piece of cake. Since then I’m a damn mess.
I’ve smoked for 22 years and now every day I want to smoke more. I don’t want to go back, but I don’t want to keep crying for no reason or bitching about nothing.My teenage boys are going to hate me and my husband is going to think I’m nuts before this is over. Does this get easier soon?
Kriaten – Reply
How’s everything going now? I agree – the first 3 days were easy for me too. Week and a half in was the hardest the last time I quit.
I have terrible anxiety and I’m quitting again today. I’m scared I’ll get that anxiety back, but we have to remember: we want to live longer, we don’t want cancer, and we want to see our kids and grandkids grow old without oxygen tanks.
Reach out if you need support!
Ruffer – Reply
Amanda, remember this: the Crazies DO pass.
Missy’s alphabet trick is great. Try anything that distracts you – but don’t pick up. Fight and win.
Tools that helped me:
- Grapefruit juice
- Vitamin C lozenges
- Brush your teeth when cravings hit (cinnamon toothpaste/mouthwash helps)
- Talk to your God, ask Him to sit or walk with you
Your sons and husband will honor you when you’re a non-smoker and they know what you went through – better than putting them through the Crazies for nothing.
And remember: this is for you. Even if you slip, get back up and do it again.
Multiple Tries, Relapses & Quitting for Family
Barbara47 – Original Post
I’m 47 and have been smoking since I was a teenager. I thought of myself as a “social smoker” because I’d quit during pregnancies (I have seven kids), but the last 7 years I’ve been at a pack or more a day.
I quit for 5 weeks last September, but there was so much stress and some family members still smoked. One day I bummed one from my son – and that restarted the habit.
I REALLY want to quit and get healthy. I guess I’m going cold turkey this time.
AnthonyTaylor – Reply
I want to stop so bad, I just don’t think I have the willpower. I hate cigarettes and how they control my mood and actions.
Going to try cold turkey and pray it works.
Patricia – Reply
I’m 55, Christian, and have been saying I want to quit for 6 months. I want to quit for my health and to be a testimony for others.
Setting a quit date seems impossible, so today I started a smoke journal to see if it helps me slowly cut back and quit. Has anyone tried this? Did it help?
Michelle – Reply
I’m 20 (almost 21). I smoked my first cigarette at 15 and have been smoking regularly since, about a pack a day since I could buy my own at 18.
I work full time, go to college – smoking is the one thing holding me back. I quit for 3 weeks for a guy and felt 10x better, but when he was gone, I went straight back.
It’s nice to know others feel this way. Smoking feels like the biggest oxymoron ever – I’m terrified of the health risks but it’s still easier to smoke than not.
Lorraine – Reply
I’ve been smoking since 15, now 26, with 4 kids. I managed to quit during pregnancies but always started back. One pregnancy I didn’t know about and smoked for almost a month – that child has bad asthma and I feel awful.
I mostly smoke when upset or bored. Everything in me says I don’t need it, but my brain says it’s too hard.
My last cigarette will be at 11:50 pm so I can start fresh tomorrow. I need something to keep me busy during those hard moments.
Mary – Reply
I’m done with you, cigarettes. I need my life back and you’re killing me slowly. I will do this for my 2 babies and my husband.
I’m starting the patches on 6/17/16. Will update.
When Your Partner Smokes – How Can a Non-Smoker Help?
Tony – Original Post
I’ve never smoked, but my wife of 9 years has smoked most of her adult life (except during pregnancy). She and her mom are trying to quit by smoking one less cigarette per day until they’re at zero.
My mother-in-law has chronic bronchitis/COPD and coughs constantly. I’m afraid she doesn’t have much time even if she quits.
Any advice on how I, as a non-smoking husband, can best support them?
Ruffer – Reply
Keep your head down and your patience up.
My husband quit cold turkey 30 years ago and never criticized me for continuing. When I decided to quit, he bought whatever aids I wanted but understood it was a very personal battle.
Quitting feels lonely even though it affects everyone around you. What I call “the Crazies” can grow if you get involved without being asked.
Best advice:
- Be prepared (read about withdrawal, triggers, mood swings).
- Be patient.
Duck when you need to and stand firm when they ask for help.
Weekend Smoking, Social Triggers & Grief
Kristen – Original Post
I tried my first cig at 18. It was gross, but I kept smoking for peer pressure. I have asthma and huge guilt about smoking.
I don’t smoke when I wake up – it’s a weekend, “few cocktails” social trigger thing. I hate myself the next day and throw away the pack, but do it again the next weekend.
My grandparents, father, two best friends, and now my mother-in-law (days from passing) have all died or are dying from smoking. You’d think that would wake me up – but it hasn’t.
I really need help.
Ruffer – Reply
Don’t expect addiction to make sense. We all knew cigarettes could harm us and kept going.
You’re basically a non-smoker with a weekend problem. Ask: are you trying to relieve social stress?
- Try a different kind of weekend that’s actually relaxing and see if the cravings show up.
- If they do, stop and ask: “Why do I want to smoke right now? What was the trigger?”
- Grab a vitamin C lozenge or something else instead. Just do not pick up.
With how little you smoke, you might quit with a low-dose patch or even without it. Maybe temporarily swap your weekend activities for healthier ones until you’ve broken the cycle.
Debra – Reply
Surround yourself with situations where smoking isn’t normal. It sounds like you can control this before it controls you.
I started how you are now and ended up a pack-a-day smoker for 6 of the next 8 years. Get out while you can.
Adler – Reply
Honestly, “a few cocktails and cigarettes” is just trying to make booze and fags sound glamorous. That “sophisticated woman with a cig and a drink” image is what seduced you in the first place.
You’re old enough now to see through the pose. You’re not sexy and sophisticated with a fag in hand – and the Marlboro man is a phony loser.
Change the lifestyle, not just the cigarette. How many runners, cyclists, tennis players or swimmers stop mid-activity for a smoke? Replace booze + cigs with an active outdoor life and you’ll be too busy to crave one.
Serious Diagnosis, COPD & “I MUST Quit”
Carol – Original Post
I’m 70 and have been smoking since 20. I’m at a pack and a half a day, have COPD, high blood pressure meds, and worst of all, an aneurysm in my aorta.
I know I’ll die if I don’t quit. I even light a cig in the middle of the night when I get up to use the bathroom. I live alone. My husband died two years ago and my dog passed away five weeks ago.
I panic if I don’t have cigarettes. Sick or well, I’ll drive to the store. I’m on a tight income and I know how much money I’d have without them.
I’ve tried the patch, maybe not long enough or maybe I wasn’t ready. Where do I begin? I can’t even walk from the parking lot through a grocery store. I MUST quit. Please, throw it at me.
GeriCowell – Reply
I’m on my 3rd or 4th attempt. I had a scare at the doctor today – bronchitis again (second time this year). He said my COPD is worse and wants to check for lung cancer once the bronchitis clears.
I’m stressing big time. I know I have to quit for good and it’ll be tough. Going to get meds and patches tomorrow, plus healthy food and anything that might help. I have 2 weeks before my next appointment – 2 weeks to get this show on the road. Wish me luck.
CindyBower – Reply
I’m 60 and have been smoking a long time, with many attempts to quit. 11 years ago I was in a horrific car accident; 37 fractures and mechanical ventilation. I should have died but didn’t and recovered amazingly well.
Quitting cigarettes has somehow been harder than surviving all that.
Methods, Products & Debates (NRT, Rien Pipe, Vaping)
Richard – Original Post
I’m not sure how you can list NRT as “effective.” Isn’t the failure rate around 94% medium to long term?
Doctors and Nicorette count success at 4 weeks – while you’re still on patches. If your last fag was 4 weeks ago but you’re still on patches, I don’t consider that success.
Six months after you finish patches, maybe. Twelve months – OK, congratulations. Four weeks? No chance.
Kathy – Reply
Who cares what you think. If it helps, then good. Too negative!
TomC – Reply
This is my third time trying to quit and I’m feeling good. Tried patches and gum before and got so frustrated I stopped.
I found this Rien Pipe program on Amazon two weeks ago and it’s been working alright so far. Might make it this time.
NimalDeSilva – Reply
Best way for me was a vaporizer (“e-cig”). Got a simple $35 starter kit. Within a month I tried a normal cigarette and hated it – tossed it after 3–4 puffs.
Started at 9–6 mg nicotine, down to 3 mg in 6 months. Now I barely vape and make my own nicotine-free juice. Like candy for adults.
Vaping worked for me: I can work out, do Muay Thai, not breathless, and I quit without suffering as much.
Gardner – Reply
Same – I picked up vaping and it was by far the easiest way. I know we don’t fully know the long-term effects, but vegetable glycerin, propylene glycol, flavorings and nicotine are clearly better than arsenic, tar, benzene, etc.
Not puffing anything is best, sure, but many people can’t quit cold turkey. I tried for years and always relapsed after a couple cold beers.
Thanks to vaping I’ve been smoke-free 3 months. My dad smoked for decades and quit easily once I bought him a vape pen. I’m proud of him and love this scene.
Nothing you say will convince me vaping isn’t the easiest way to ditch cigarettes. Maybe not the best, but the easiest.
DavidHwang – Reply
I’m glad it worked for you, but personally I don’t like the idea of replacing one substance with another. That’s why I won’t use patch or gum either.
What’s the point of getting off one chemical just to start depending on another?
Also, some flavoring chemicals (like diacetyl) have been linked to “popcorn lung” in other settings. I wish people were more cautious.
Allen Carr, Apps & Mindset Hacks
Sisco – Original Post
I’m 55 and quit on 5/21/16 using the Allen Carr method and the power of prayer. Day 3 was my worst.
It’s been 3 weeks now and I know I won’t smoke again. I use the Quitter app to track how long I’ve quit and how much money I’ve saved. I feel proud every time I check it.
Good luck to everybody!
kathyDingler – Reply
Does anyone know a website with a list of withdrawal symptoms?
BoB – Reply
I quit right before Christmas – about 6 months now. Nobody’s counting but me. Quick math:
6 months × 30 days × $5/day = $900 saved. Better in my pocket than the tobacco companies’.The urge still pops up, though less intense. I’ve quit for long periods before and it gets harder each time.
My rule: don’t consider yourself truly “quit” until you’ve gone at least 1 year. That’s when a little bragging is in order.
PaulRufus – Reply
My view: 75% of the battle is won when you decide “it’s time.” Don’t start counting hours – it’s done and dusted.
Buy strong mints and take them liberally. It’s not that difficult. Believe me.
Chupacabra – Reply
Think of quitting like studying. If you’ve got an exam, it’s better to review a bit each day for a week than cram all at once.
Work with how your brain actually stores information and builds habits.
Big Health Scare, Lifestyle Changes & Early Wins
KennethS – Original Post
Leaving this as a reminder to myself: I quit on 04.04.2016, so I’m at 7+ weeks. I’ve smoked since 15 and I’m now 6 months from turning 50.
I decided to quit after chest contractions that felt like the start of something bad – heart attack or clot. I also stopped drinking (which was heavy) and haven’t had any for about the same time.
I started going to the gym 4 times a week so my lungs and body get exercise. It’s been hard at times; right now I’ve got a nasty chesty cough from my lungs cleaning out 34 years of damage.
I’ll keep on track. Smoking kills, and it’s expensive. It’s absolutely worth the fight. I’ll keep updating.
Sisco – Reply
I’m only on day 5 so I envy you being this far in. I’m fully committed and not going to smoke, but it’s tough.
Can anyone tell me when I’ll stop craving a cigarette?
Ruffer – Reply
Thank you, Kenneth. Major lifestyle changes like yours are huge. We all need to hear that it CAN be done. Please keep updating.
Thread 13: “PLEASE Listen to This Long-Time Smoker” (COPD Wake-Up Call)
Tami – Original Post
Ladies and Gentlemen… PLEASE listen to this LONG-time smoker. I’ve been smoking since I was 15 and I’m turning 50 this year. I tried quitting once and made it to three months. Stress is a big trigger for me.
QUIT while you can, as young as you can, before damage is done. My final quit date is chosen (July 18th) and I will do ALL in my power not to touch another one. I am done with it… ALL of it.
I just had my first bout of COPD and spent a week in the hospital trying like hell to breathe. You do not want this, trust me. If I could do it over, I would never have touched these foul things. Biggest mistake of my life.
But here I am, ready to do what I should have done long ago, and I WILL stop this from going any further. I have a lot of life left and I’m tired of cigarettes controlling me. It’s time for ME to take control.
I wish you all the best. Keep up the fight!! One day at a time.
Nadia – Reply
Wow, Tami, that hit home. I also started smoking at 15 and I’ll be 50 in a couple of months. I’m on Day 4 and I’m deep in the “mind game” stage.
Part of me keeps thinking, “Maybe cold turkey isn’t right. Maybe I should use patches or gum… or just smoke that half-cigarette in the ashtray and start again tomorrow.” And then I read that Days 3–5 are the worst because nicotine is leaving your body and the real withdrawals start.
But I realized the mind game is between my health and the holes in my brain screaming they NEED nicotine. My answer right now:
“No, you do not need nicotine!! You need to fill those holes with pictures of you being healthy at 60, and of your grandkids graduating and getting married.”
So I’m filling my brain with that instead. Nice try, nicotine, you @$$.
Wishing you and everyone here a successful journey to being non-smokers. 🙂
Roger – Reply
Hi Tami,
What you wrote is very heartfelt. COPD is a brutal wake-up call, and it sounds like you’ve really crossed that line where smoking is no longer an option.
I’m sure you’ll reach the place where smoking is just a forgotten pastime. Please let us know how you’re going.
Dot – Reply
I’m in a similar boat. I was diagnosed with COPD 4 years ago and planned to quit for my 50th birthday. Two weeks before it, my parents were killed in a bus accident and instead of quitting, I smoked more.
Now I can barely walk after a cigarette. I can’t breathe in cold or hot weather; I can’t even enjoy simple things like taking my grandkids to the park.
Everyone, please don’t end up like me. Quit now, like Tami’s doing.
Penny – Reply
I’m 68 with COPD, on three inhalers a day. I quit cold turkey 5 years ago for 6 months, then started again after being discharged from hospital for pneumonia. I know how insane that sounds.
I don’t even feel addicted to nicotine so much as the action — boredom, routine, circumstance. I don’t smoke around non-smokers or in places where it’s not allowed, but at home and around smokers, I join in.
The “pleasure” is listening to your own whistling breath at night, drowning in phlegm, coughing until you want to puke, plus the cost that could easily feed a person on fresh food.
I’ve decided: I’m stopping when this packet is gone. Reading posts like yours showed me just how mad/crazy/selfish this addiction is. Thank you for inspiring me.
Ben – Reply
Tami, I felt what you felt. I’ve smoked for 48 years straight. Three weeks ago I literally had no breath in or out. Rushed to casualty, got three shots to open my chest. My wife thought I was done.
Now it’s three weeks later. I’m using Zyban to keep calm and sugar-free butterscotch to ride out cravings. No patches, no gum, no nicotine products.
I can smell and taste better, I breathe better, and my wife still smokes next to me and it doesn’t trigger cravings. Maybe she’s watching to see if I can endure and win so she can try.
It’s not worth it. It was “good” while it lasted, but it’s over now.
Cathy Johnston – Reply
I’m 70 and smoked for 50 years. Diagnosed with COPD in 2015. Then an MRI in March 2016 showed two brain aneurysms. Risk factors: smoking and high blood pressure.
I quit on July 24 with Wellbutrin and it’s been a godsend. Not perfect, but I’m still here and still smoke-free.
Your story is scary, but it’s also powerful. We can still change the end of our story, even after decades.
Thread 14: Motivation, Apps, Money & “One Day at a Time”
Mark – Original Post
I’ve been smoking 6 years. I’ve tried to stop so many times, but my breaks were like 3 days max. I tried patches, gum, diets, etc., but those tools weren’t enough.
Now I’m 20 days since my last cig. I still want to smoke sometimes, but it’s much easier than the first week.
I learned nothing helps you except your own huge desire and motivation. For me, it’s saving money to buy a new car and improving my health.
I use an app called Smoke Free — it shows how much money I’ve saved and how my health is improving, plus tips for cravings.
My advice:
- Find a strong motivation.
- Use a tool that reminds you of your success.
- Enjoy your healthier life.
MSK – Reply
I WILL STOP SMOKING.
NO.
I HAVE STOPPED SMOKING.
Majlinda – Reply
Hi, I’m Majlinda. I’ve smoked since 18 and now I’m 27. I was at work, stepped out for a cigarette, came back in, had nothing to do, and started Googling quitting.
I somehow landed on this site and started reading all your comments — they made me feel good and really think seriously about stopping. I feel so happy just thinking about quitting.
I hope I make it and don’t change my mind. Good luck to all of us. 🙂
Tracy – Reply
One day at a time really is the best way. We’re human — we make mistakes and bad choices. If we relapse, we start again.
Don’t be so hard on yourself. At least we’re trying. Hopefully one day we can all say we’re smoke-free.
Good luck, all!
Mammy of 4
Lisa – Reply
I’m on Day 6. Daytime is fine, but evenings and weekends are still really hard.
I try to trick my brain. I tell myself, “I’m not a smoker and I never smoked,” then I drink a glass of water. Sometimes it works.
The mental part is wild, but I’m hanging on.
Agnieszka Sternik – Reply
I’m not a smoker, but my boyfriend is. I care about him and I had an idea: get a big can and use it like a piggy bank. Every day, put in the amount you’d normally spend on cigarettes.
It becomes like going for a “big smoke,” but healthy. At the end of the year, you can spend that money on anything except cigarettes.
Turn wasted money into a reward. Maybe that helps with motivation.
Honey – Reply
I did the math — I spend over $2,500 a year on cigarettes. Just imagine what I could have done with that money.
Best of luck to you and your boyfriend. 🙂
Vitaliy – Reply
Saved money is such a good bonus. The app Smoke Free also helped me — it shows health benefits and money saved. I’ve been smoke-free 44 days and feel amazing.
Good luck to all of you!
Thread 15: Allen Carr, Apps, Hypnosis & “Is Cutting Down a Trap?”
Joe Baumgartner – Original Post
Anyone helping others quit and not mentioning Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Stop Smoking is missing a big piece.
Yes, some read it and keep smoking, but you’ve got nothing to lose by reading. It’s the best way I’ve found to get mentally prepared.
I quit over a year ago and have never been happier.
Roger – Reply
Agreed, Joe.
Allen was a fascinating man and helped more people than he probably ever knew. Congrats on your freedom from nicotine.
Caleb – Reply
I’m planning to quit this weekend. Does anyone have experience with his online video seminars vs the book? The seminars are more expensive — not sure which is better.
JDE – Reply
I smoked 20+ a day for 20 years. I read the book, turned the last page, and didn’t crave a cigarette again — not even when drinking.
Three years later, I lit a cigarette for my wife at a party and that night I smoked 20 cigarettes. It reminded me how addictive this stuff is. Lesson learned: not even one drag.
I’ve been trying for 2 years to stop again. For me, it’s not about needing nicotine anymore, but getting my mind in the right place to say, “I don’t want this and it won’t control me.”
The book helped me understand the psychology of nicotine and cigarettes. I’m reading it again now and I won’t be tempted to light one for anyone. I recommend it.
Roger – Reply (to Caleb)
I read both of Allen’s books and took the full-day course in Australia with 15 other smokers. By the last “ciggy break,” you could tell not everyone was going back out.
I quit for 2 weeks, then started again. My partner quit and never wanted another cig. The difference? She knew why she smoked. I still don’t really know why I smoke; all the usual reasons (fear, stress, relaxation) don’t feel like the true root.
The book can work, but don’t rush it and don’t skip to the end. The length is intentional — to slowly re-adjust your thinking about smoking.
Jim – Reply
Smoked 30 a day for 17 years. Tried cold turkey, patches, e-cigs — all had limited success.
I nearly gave up on quitting until I found Jason Vale’s material and his free app “Quit Smoking in 2 Hours.” It finally made sense why other methods didn’t work for me.
Two hours of listening changed the way I see smoking. No willpower, just clarity. It’s free, and for me it was life-changing.
Ted – Reply
Allen Carr’s Easyway really does work. It shows you that all the things you think smoking does for you are actually things it does to you.
I smoked a pack and a half a day for 20 years and even being diagnosed with cancer and having a tumor removed wasn’t enough to make me quit on willpower alone. Easyway gave me a different mindset.
Get the book and a few packs to smoke while you read. By the last third, you’ll be disgusted by the fumes you’re forcing into your lungs.
Steve Power – Reply
The subconscious is where the cravings live. That’s why hypnotherapy can be so effective. It’s not really the nicotine; it’s the habit and the beliefs.
Hypnosis works on the subconscious to change beliefs like “it’s too hard” into “I have to do this for my health/family.” You can kill triggers, and every time you see someone smoking, it reminds you that you are a non-smoker.
Mojtaba – Reply
My belief: either all methods can work or none will, depending on your will. If you’re not mentally ready, nothing helps.
This is my 5th day as a non-smoker. Gum and patches can help, but you can also end up addicted to them. Keep your will alive all the time. Good luck, everyone.
Dr. Bobby – Reply
As a physician, here’s a “fake your brain” protocol:
- Keep a pack and lighter with you.
- After each meal, put a cigarette in your mouth but don’t light it.
- Take deep breaths through it as if you did.
- Tell yourself how relaxed you feel.
Do this after meals for two weeks, then gradually reduce. You still get the ritual without the smoke and slowly detach the link. Reward yourself for progress. There are easier ways to die than respiratory failure.
Arun Lal – Reply
Governments know how deadly tobacco is but keep quiet because of revenue and jobs. Tobacco should be treated as a hard drug, with factories closed and planting banned.
Until then, quitting is on us. We can’t rely on governments to save us from cigarettes.
Thread 16: Cold Turkey Stories, Relapse & “If I Can Quit, Anyone Can”
Meme – Original Post
I quit cold turkey 3 weeks and 1 day ago.
Pam – Reply
I smoked my first cigarette at 9, regularly by 12. I’m 61 now. I quit 6 months ago on my dad’s birthday — he spent his last days on oxygen and would have lived longer if he hadn’t smoked.
I hope I haven’t waited too long for my body to heal, but I’m fighting. I still sometimes think how nice it would be to sit and relax with a cigarette; then I brush it aside and forget again.
If I can quit, anyone can. I REALLY liked smoking, a lot. To keep up the fight, I tell myself: I can have a cigarette again when I’m 90.
Marlene – Reply
I started smoking late, at 54, from stress and anxiety. I used to hate cigarettes. I quit in summer 2016 cold turkey for a while because my lungs felt wrecked, then relapsed after 4 months.
Now I know I can’t afford it financially or health-wise. I’ve got 1 cigarette left and 3 nicotine patches. I’m starting again. I also have access to a state quit-line and online support.
Trying again. That’s all we can do.
VP – Reply
Day 1 again for me, quitting cold turkey. Third attempt: first lasted 8 months, second lasted 2. Hoping this one sticks.
Frank – Reply
I was a very heavy smoker — 3 to 4 packs a day. I got them cheap online. I was diagnosed diabetic in 2008 and knew smoking + diabetes = lost limbs. I quit cold turkey.
Strangely, it was easy. Three months later I’d lost 16 pounds. I relapsed in 2015, then quit again that fall. Same thing: no withdrawal, no cravings.
I once tried the patch and swear it increased cravings. I don’t think I was ever truly addicted to nicotine, even at 3–4 packs a day. Strange but true.
Frank – Reply
One thing I noticed: every time I quit easily, I’d been smoking ultra-light 1 mg brands (Now or Carlton) for at least a year beforehand. I don’t care what they say — you can’t “get your dose” with those.
At first, you might smoke tons of them, but over time they reduce your intake and make quitting easier. For me, anyway.
BEN – Reply
Hi everybody,
Just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Xmas and a prosperous New Year. Three cheers for those of us finishing 2016 smoke-free — let’s beat 2017 as well.
Thread 17: Secret Smokers, Living With Smokers & Quitting in a Smoky Home
Kelsey – Original Post
I just started a 90-day exercise program and quit alcohol cold turkey — I used to drink at least 4 bottles of wine and drink every day or every other day. It’ll be 1 month on Tuesday. I’m proud I quit!
Next on my list is smoking. I’m 25, have been smoking 5 years, a pack every other day. It hasn’t decreased since quitting alcohol — if I want a drink, I smoke instead, a lot.
My worst smoking is while driving and on stressful workdays. I’ve been thinking about quitting for a few weeks and I think I’m ready to kick this nasty habit.
Next: set a date, cut back, prepare my mind. Would love to talk to someone else planning to quit soon.
Johnny – Reply
I’m 36, smoked a pack a day since 18. I want to go cold turkey too — I’ve tried patches and gum when I wasn’t ready, and they didn’t work.
I’m also quitting alcohol because cigarettes and drinking go hand in hand for me. I know I can stop alcohol; I’ve done over a year before. But cigarettes are my biggest enemy.
Any advice from people who quit cold turkey while also quitting alcohol?
Terry – Reply
I’ve smoked 40 years and now have early peripheral arterial disease (PAD) from smoking. I’m trying to quit now, using gum to cut down. It does help, but it’s still the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
If anyone has extra hints for quitting while also dealing with long-term health damage, I’d appreciate it.
Ann – Reply
I’m 22. First cigarette at 12, pack every 3 days by 17, now up to a pack a day. I’ve tried quitting several times but nicotine wins.
I tried vaping, it worked for about 2 weeks, then I was back at the store buying a pack. My family has no idea I smoke. Only my boyfriend knows — but he doesn’t know how to support me.
It’s harder when you’re hiding it. I want to be in control of my life instead of a pack of cigarettes.
D.S.R – Reply
I totally relate. I’m 35, have been smoking off and on for 16 years. No one in my family knows I smoke, not even my kids (11 and 18). Only my boyfriend knows — he’s a smoker.
I’m a Christian woman, work in dental, have white teeth and present well, so no one suspects. I lie to the doctor about smoking, I spray myself with perfume to hide it. I’m tired of living a lie and hurting my body.
Every time I throw the pack away in the morning, by lunch I’m buying another. I’m going to keep trying. I love my kids too much to keep doing this.
Chole – Reply
DSR — I get it. I live with family too and was terrified of being “found out.” That anxiety actually became my leverage.
One family member caught me once and threatened to tell the other if I didn’t quit. That was my turning point. I quit because I was tired of being scared and tired of lying.
Use that fear of embarrassment as fuel. Quit before they find out — and more importantly, quit for you.
Cj – Reply
HOW DO YOU QUIT SMOKING WHEN YOU LIVE WITH A SMOKER??
My husband and I both smoke. Mid-50s, smoking since our teens. We’ve tried to quit together once — I lasted 2 months, he lasted a week. My triggers are weekend beers; his is stress.
We smoke in the house (I know, awful) and my non-smoker daughter constantly says everything stinks. She’s right. Our nice home smells like an ashtray.
When I was pregnant, I quit easily both times, but started again after the kids were born. I thought going to the other room made it okay. It didn’t. I regret it so much.
My daughter is now planning a baby and told me I have 2 years to quit because she doesn’t want her baby in a smoky house. I would never smoke around my grandchild, but the house still smells.
My husband refuses to quit or even smoke outside — “This is my house.” I know quitting has to be my decision, but it’s so hard when the person you live with smokes indoors. I wish we could do this together.
hankytove – Reply
I’m not there yet either. I hate how I smell and how my coworkers complain about cigarette odor. I’ve quit smoking at work but still smoke at home.
Every time I try to quit fully, I fail. I really need help too.
Abdul Adil – Reply
I’ve smoked 6 years. Started with one cigarette offered by my cousin and kept going. On my own I smoke 2–3 a day. When I’m with my best friend, it jumps to a pack a day.
I don’t know what to do. I’m so confused. I feel like my smoking is tied to my social circle.
Thread 18: Early Days, Cravings, Panic & Looking for Hope
Que – Original Post
I’m 27, started smoking at 18. A few days ago I lay down after a cigarette and felt like my chest was going to cave in.
I quit cold turkey 3 days ago. I’ve had cravings and mood swings — sometimes I just force myself to sleep. I’m craving right now which is why I’m on this site looking for help.
I’m putting on gym clothes and walking to the gym instead of smoking. I’m NOT SMOKING ANYMORE. If I start again, it’s going to kill me. Cigarettes are a silent killer.
CF – Reply
I’m 25, smoking since 16. Just got married and my greatest fear is not having kids or not seeing them grow up. I told myself last night that I’d quit, and I failed this morning.
I feel horrible — but reading everyone’s posts, I decided I’m DONE. I want to smell good again and have a normal life.
I’m scared, but I’m going to keep trying. WE CAN DO THIS.
Lelly – Reply
I’m almost on Day 3 and I’m literally climbing the walls. Everything is annoying, I can’t focus on anything but cigarettes.
I’ve smoked since 13 (I’m 28 now), so basically everything I’ve done in life involved smoking. I’ve tried quitting many times and always snuck one here or there. This time I’m determined, but it feels like the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
If anyone is in the same boat, I’d love to talk. I need the support.
prakash – Reply
For me, it was a 72-hour game. Just control those first 72 hours and you win the toughest part.
Vikram – Reply
Is it really just 72 hours? I’m on the fence but want to believe that.
T N – Reply
Day 6 for me and it’s rough. I was really sick the first 3 days, now I’m just coughing a lot. If I light up, I know it’ll make it worse.
I keep a pack and lighter on me like Dr. Bobby suggested, but I don’t light them. I use a pen like a fake cigarette. It actually helps.
Thread 19: Faith, Anger at Cigarettes & Emotional Support
STEPHANY – Original Post
Hey everybody. I’ve been reading the comments and I commend everyone for trying to stop — it is NOT easy.
I lost my husband to cancer from cigarettes. He was a mountain of a man and withered to 56 pounds. Our autistic son still doesn’t really understand his dad’s death.
I’m a nurse and I still smoked after all that. You’d think I’d know better. I curse these damned things every time I see them. They’re pissing me off now, when I used to welcome them. Still, they sit on my table.
I’m going to try something different this time. I’m going to PRAY. Honestly, what have I got to lose?
Hugs to all,
Stephany
Vizo – Reply
In God, everything is possible.
Tahir – Reply
No need to over-read articles or comments if they overwhelm you. Believe in yourself and quit. I am dead sure you can do it.
I Wish to Be FREE 🙂 – Reply
I’m puzzled about nicotine gum — it seems like people get addicted to it, too. I have a friend who quit smoking but is on her 5th year of chewing gum and it’s changed her face.
I rarely even enjoy smoking anymore. I hate it. I was buying 2–3 cigs a day from other smokers and it worked for about 2 weeks… then I bought a full pack and now I’m back to 9 a day. What a curse.
I wish you all luck, just as I wish it for myself.