How to Handle Anger and Rage When Quitting Smoking

When you quit smoking, your emotions may not be as in check as they were before. Even if you are not an emotional person, the effect that cravings can have on you can turn you into that kind of person.

You may find it is harder to stay in control, keep calm and be reasonable. These are feelings that pretty much everyone going through withdrawal symptoms experiences. Thankfully, there are ways to cope with these feelings and to move past your rage and anger. Here are some of the best coping strategies on How to Handle Anger and Rage When Quitting Smoking.

Avoid the Triggers

The best treatment is prevention. This holds true for any disease, and it applies equally as well to withdrawal symptom rage. If you know what makes you angry, you can simply avoid it and avoid the anger.

This generally involves a two-part strategy. First you have to avoid the things that tick you off normally. These might be your pet peeves or certain types of conversations that put you in an angry mood. It could also be your boss at work. You may not be able to avoid your boss, but you can certainly make an effort to have a different kind of relationship with that person. Sometimes you just have to fake it and be happy even when you don’t feel like it in order to fight the rage that comes with experiencing withdrawal symptoms.

Then you have to avoid the triggers that cause your cravings. Once you start missing your cigarettes you are going to start feeling anxious, testy, and easily enraged. It won’t take much to push you over that tipping point and make you angry. To keep that from happening, you have to identify what makes your cravings appear. Is it stress? Is it going back to your old stomping grounds where you used to smoke most often?

For many people, the cravings are triggered by revisiting locations, people and memories that involved them smoking a lot in the past. If you can make an effort to steer clear of them, then you can sidestep the rage more easily. This may involve staying away from people you care about and places you love, but it may be necessary to make some changes to your life if you are going to make the big change of quitting actually last.

Deal with the Anger

You can’t always avoid the anger. There will be times where it comes out of you and you just have to deal with it. In that instance, you cannot let it control you, and you cannot try to marginalize it. Instead, focus on what is causing you that anger. Is it really a big deal and worth being angry about? Are you really angry about that trigger or is it just that you miss your cigarettes?Control Your Anger

Asking yourself these questions may help you to see how illogical and pointless your anger is. If you can dispel it, you will be able to conquer it better every time it comes up.

You can also try to think of your anger as a temporary problem. You know that emotional state will pass. So instead of venting your anger or saying something out of turn, try to keep quiet and to yourself until the feeling has passed. You are going to want a cigarette when that anger appears, to help calm you down, but you need to fight that feeling as much as you can.

One of the best ways to do that is to keep people around you who will be able to support you and who can sympathize with what you are going through. These can be family members, friends or just people who provide quit smoking help to those who need it. Make sure you have their phone numbers available on your phone and that you try to spend as much time with them as possible.

Keep in mind that these feelings of anger and irritability will be strongest within the first two weeks of withdrawal. If you can push past that time period, then you will start to have an easier time of it. Just keep telling yourself that you don’t have to fight much longer, and you will be able to achieve your goal of quitting smoking. But you are not going to be able to do that if you don’t have a plan and you don’t have a support system in place. Before you quit, make a strategy for yourself and ensure you stick to it.


  1. Here it is! This is what I’m anxious about…this stuff right here…yep…makin me nervous already just thinking about it. I’m irritable, I quit once before and I started again because I was just to irritable, didn’t like it, but I have to deal with it

    • I smoked from the age of 14… I quit cold turkey on 2/25/05 and still have withdrawl issues. It gets easier,but not by much. I consider myself an addict…One day at a time!

    • I know it’s been a while since you posted your comment but I want to say that I quit smoking cold turkey in the first week of November 2016 (I can’t even remember the day) and I have not had any cigarettes ever since. I do not want to smoke and I don’t feel the need to smoke. I want to mention that I was a chain smoker for about 7-8 years, smoking up to 30 cigarettes per day, or even 40-50 when I was out and drinking. I have mentally prepared myself for more than a year, thinking about how bad the taste is, how awful my clothes smell, how it damages my body, what are the actual processes inside my body affected by smoking…basically I was making myself aware of how bad it is to smoke, convincing myself that I will quit one day but I need to be conscious about how damaging it is to smoke. Then in October 2016 I got sick, caught a cold, continued smoking, then it got worse and I have been diagnosed with pneumonia and I had liquid trapped in one of the lungs (I’m 27 y.o.). Before going to the doctor I promised myself I would quit smoking if I were to be diagnosed with pneumonia (again, this was my second pneumonia in a year, never having it before in my whole life), and I did it. Now, I feel awesome, started going to the gym almost daily, I have a lot of energy, the taste and smell is better, my clothes don’t smell anymore, I am eating healthy and cook a lot (I have to say that you get a lot of time after quitting smoking), and basically enjoy everything EXCEPT for one thing: I became an emotional rollercoaster and my filters are almost gone. I am either depressed or euphoric, I get angry real fast, I spit fire…I feel awful about that. This is the only thing that bothers me and, unfortunately, although I don’t crave cigarettes anymore, I’m thinking about starting again because I am such an emotional rollercoaster, but then again I enjoy the other benefits…my guess would be that I have to work more on managing my emotions and that’s it. I hope every single one of you can quit smoking and keep it that way! And don’t forget, before quitting cold turkey, TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO HATE CIGARETTES WHILE YOU’RE STILL SMOKING! THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT, TO DO IT BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY QUIT AND IT TAKES TIME! Good luck!!!

      • I was glad to see that I’m not the only one who comes out of myself and then feels badly. I quit Monday, it’s Friday and I think I’m going to need bail money saved. And then I just cry. It’s my own fault for starting an addictive drug. I know I will be strong enough to not smoke and I understand how the body works going thru withdrawal. It doesnt seem to make it easier. And I don’t remember those things when I’m wildly spewing anger and rage. I remember when I’m calm and want to cry. .My goal. . Notice those situations and avoid them before they find me. . Or I’m engaged in a battle that normally wouldn’t even bother me.

  2. Hey Jeff… know what you mean… sometimes just thinking about quitting has given me the jitters… I am on day 3… and found this web site helpful in understanding why yesterday and today have seemed harder to deal with cravings than day 1. I don’t know how long you quit smoking and started again due to the irritability factor… Just wondering… could you be using “irritability” as an excuse for you to continue smoking? Wonder if you accept that you will be irritable for first week at least-maybe even 2-this could help you over that hump. I’ve had two different times in my life where I quit for over a year… and as an idiot started again… mainly to feel that smoke inhalation and thinking I could control my smoking… Now I know I can’t do that ever… So, this is my hurrah attempt… and I will make it… Hope you do as well.

  3. I am a week and a half quit and this has always been my struggle and breaking point to starting smoking again on past quit attempts. This time I am really trying to understand if I really am angry for a good reason or if I am just creating a situation to give myself permission to smoke. Its been interesting that in most of those cases, I find the reason is yes. Hoping this part goes quickly. Doing some working out to help fuel past the anger stages. 🙂

  4. I am almost three months quit this time and I understand the anger and other emotions. My co-workers have been amazing. You just have to hang in there! I have tried to quit many times before. I have made up my mind that this will be it. I know I will be angry off and on and gain weight. I keep a running list of all the things that are getting better and it helps.

  5. Will I been somking for 15 years and on 2/3/16 I made my mind up and I quit smoking and its not been fun but this will help me so thank u

    • It’s so hard, I quit 2/16/16 and struggle to stay cigarette free, mostly it was like a companion, that’s insane, now I have to replace my time with anything. .I went cold turkey, prob not a smart way. But I push on…

      • Hang in there. Cold turkey is the best way to go and after 3 days or so you’ll have all the nicotine out of your system and you’ll be left with those horrible “triggers”. I’m a professional “quitter”, quit 2 years, 16 years, 4 years, etc. and somehow found a way back to smoking after each quit. Cold turkey works but you have to be committed to “never take another puff”. I’m 2 weeks into another quit, doing ok but I still feel it tying to pull me back. It’s a terrible addiction.
        I’m determined to stay clear of cigarettes for the rest of my life but have to take it 1 day at a time.
        Take care.

  6. The rage is the toughest part for me. I quit smoking for a full year, and started again like an idiot. “It’s only one cigarette” mind set always leads to a relapse.
    The first go around, I was able to avoid all my triggers for the most part, and when I got that flash of uncontrollable rage, which was really often, I would grit my teeth and do pushups or another strenuous workout until it went away. That worked wonders. I can’t really do that now because of my job. I am using the nicotine lozenges, but trying to get off of those, I find my emotions going completely crazy. I feel euphoric at times, deeply depressed others, and sometimes I get an extreme burst of nearly uncontrollable rage. Most of the time I can step back a bit and rationalize the emotion. If you can look at yourself in the moment, and ask yourself is this justified or logical or is this just the withdraw; just the act of doing that will somtimes calm you down.

    • Read your post and said “that’s me!” I’m two weeks after my last cigarette and worried that I’m beginning to crave the 2mg lozenges. I limit myself to 3 per day to keep the rage at bay.
      If it weren’t for the rage I think I could muscle through, but I fear what I might do or say to someone. How do you get off the lozenges?

    • Hi there, my name is Jerry…I have quit 5-6 times using everything from lozenges, Zyban, patches, and gum…I went back every time and have not quit yet…my question is I have severe anger issues when I quit and get really mad at everything…I am married and have 2 kids which of course makes life pretty rough when I have you have any suggestions on ways to control it…thanks in advance

      • Try cytisine in the form of tabex or tbx free. It helps with withdraw symptoms that could be considered too much to handle. It is not a cure all but it can help with symptoms of the smoker that really, and I mean really wants to quit. All the luck in the world to you.

  7. I am on day 7 of of quitting and I am doing it with the Nicoderm patch Step 1. My problem Is that I am depressed. this week. This morning I wanted a cigarette really bad when I woke up but It did pass. I quit because I had been very sick with Pneumonia and I wanted to never get this sickness again. It has been a rough road for the past 5 weeks and I am much better and last week I started walking everyday now I am laid up with my sciatic giving me a problem so I can not go for my walk which is upsetting me and making me very depressed so now I lay here wanting the cigarette. Help!

    • Just take a deep breath and think to ur self WHT kind of person u would lIke to be with or see and what you and them could be doing

  8. its been 40 days and im so mad all the time! and i dont feel any better. dr. says it will take time. jeezus am i suppose to lose my job in the meantime.!?

    • I agree with you whole heartedly! Ive smoked regularly for 23 yrs or so, and I am in the process of quitting. This time I feel I can actually do it but like you say, I do not feel better and I am a walking around with a full cup of anger trying not to spill it!

      • Me too! Tuesday will be 4 weeks but I don’t even like who I am! I explode on my kids and husband for the stupidest things! I hate who I am as a non smoker and that’s why I cannot quit for good! My husband quit 20 years,ago and he says he still crave’s it! NOT good! I hate the rage inside me! I started the gym but it’s not helping….

      • Hey. I keep getting to day 3 and start again. How to deal with irritability and anger? My boss gets on my nerves. Don’t know how to handle. Help

  9. I’m on day 4 and had a meltdown this morning, just started crying and told my husband I didn’t think I could do it. I’m lucky that I am still healthy. I started smoking when I was 18, I am now 68. I was never a heavy smoker. When I was younger, maybe a half a pack, the last 10 years 5 a day. I tried and failed many times. I have celiac disease and my reason for never succeeding is that I suffer from severe constpation. Plus I always use the excuse that since there are so many things I can not eat, I at least had my cigarettes that I enjoyed. My grandchildren 7 and 9 do not know their nana smokes. I’m always so fearfull they will find out. On Christmas day my youngest grandson made me a Xmas card and it said, Nana I love you more than my XBox.” How much love is that, extraordinary, I felt so much love. Then I couldn’t stop thinking about how much I loved him too. So little Nicholas I said to myself I love you more than my cigarettes. So this I am going to make it. Just taking one day at a time.

    • Just reading your post. Did you make it not smoking? I could relate to your story.
      I quit 39 days ago. I smoked for 40 years. I only smoked 5-7 cigs a day but got tired of them controlling my life. I never smoked in front of anyone in my family except my husband. I’m having a really hard time with the emotional addiction. I really want to get past this addiction. I just ordered some vapor cigs. No nicotine. I hope they help get me through the tough times.

  10. I’m on day three. I can’t concentrate with anything and just want to eat all the time. I probably smoked about six to seven roll ups a day, sometimes more if alcohol was involved. Anyhow I’m going slightly nuts but confident I can hold out at least in the short term. I think the real difficulty will be when I’m out and alcohol is involved and people are smoking, but I’m trying to not even think about that.
    Even though I’ve just started I find giving myself treats and rewards helps, like doing something or eating something that I wouldn’t normally but I know I’ll enjoy. It seems to make it less a pain in the arse and gives me some further motivation. I’m doing it cold turkey, no patches or vapes. Each to their own but I just want a clean break. I do look forward to getting some concentration skills back.

  11. Hello, I am going into my second week of not smoking and I will not go back to it this time. I am determined to be smoke free one day at a time. It has been tough and I am easily angered, irritated and pissed and I am glad to hear the other stories. My body is going through withdrawal really bad. I am on Chantix and it helps my mind/brain to say, “I do not want a cigarette since it changes the receptors in the brain that chemical drop of dopa-min that says i need the nicotine. When I get through this tough time I will remember how tough it was and the body pain and emotional withdrawl. I tell everyone ahead of time I am off the cigarettes if I go off on you that is why. Also, I can’t think or form my words right either. I am half goofy. I hope this passes soon. Some of my triggers are dealing with poor customer service reps on the phone, my soon to be ex husband, financial stress. I drink plenty of water, chew gum, suckers, go work out and walk a mile or so and pray alot. God help me not to smoke today. Thank you for sharing your stories. I kno I am not alone and am this way for a reason. Do not smoke is what I am hearing no matter what.

  12. I am on my day 7 . YAY a week I should be so happy, but I am not! every day I seem to get angrier and angrier, everything bothers me, I mean literally cat is in heat meowing and meowing and anytime I want to get her neutered she just keeps being in heat…. and then stupid things like being hungry, or doing something with my work…blocked toilet, or busted pipe, or cat falling into water bowl and put water everywhere after you got soak wet from that busted pipe outside. I feel so bad, I feel like I am so mean to everyone and everything around me, my ego tells me to start smoking again that so I wont be hurting others id rather smoke…but I don’t want to I feel so selfish..( I know this is irrational) ;/ …does anybody feels the same? it seems like everything is a trigger for me, because I just smoked to suppress my anxiety..and now all my suppressed emotions are coming up…..

    • YES Susie anything and everything is making me lose it….I’m 1 month in and I HATE the mean, angry person I have become…my family deserve better…I must figure out a way to cap it.

      • Claire (& Susie) I’m on week 5, and same for me with the anger. I’m just trying everything… exercise, smooth jazz, YouTube videos of Dr. Wayne Dyer… Lol..anything. You’re not alone. It takes constant effort, but don’t give up. We CAN do this, & we deserve it,so keep patting yourself on the back, & buy gifts for yourself with cigarette money. Eventually the rage does fade.

    • I’m just wondering when it’s supposed to get better. Haven’t smoked in 61 days. I smoked for 30 years, a pack a day and was sick maybe 3 times in 30 years. In the last 60 days, I’ve been sick with sinus infections, 4 times. I get so constipated although I drink water until I think I could swim. The Greek yogurt helps with that but I am so gassy. And it’s not funny. You really can’t be around me and my job is I deal with and am around the public. Very embarrassing! Never was a bitch before, but now everything just pisses me off. So those of you that have stayed quit, I ask. When does this get better? I do chew gum and use e-cigs to help with the cravings. I tried quiting several times before but got so depressed I didn’t want to live so decided life with cigs was better than being dead. This time I haven’t been as depressed as that but I was so much happier, less bitchy and felt better when I smoked. When does it get better?

      • Hi Ive also found that I’ve been ill so much more frequently since quitting! Maybe just coincidence! I still struggle after a year but I was pregnant and knew I had to give up, but now I’ve had the baby I’m struggling again! Resenting the fact that I can’t smoke as I really want to but don’t want to at the same time! It does get alot easier, I just notice that it’s on really stressful days that I struggle or when I’m tired. I can’t even drink or eat what I want at the moment due to health reasons which is why I think am struggling so much at the moment! I hope it gets easier for you soon!

    • I am totally feeling the same way.. everything is a trigger…..
      The cat, dog, kids , even the birds chirping gets on my nerves. I am having irrational thoughts. I actually feel like I understand why cutters cut themselves, or pull their hair out. crazy stuff. Dont worry I have expressed these feelings with my loved ones and don’t think I would go there. But Irrational is how I’m feeling. I’m 3 weeks in and I’m not giving up. it actually just helps reading everyone’s journey but also scary not knowing when I will be the new and improved me.

    • Oh yes after 2 months I’m still feeling it. I told my mum today she’s mean an controlling an crying. OOOOO lord help me. I wanna love being smokefree

  13. I was forced to quit on November 23, 2015. I’m 57 and I began smoking at 15. My quit story is strange in that it sounds like it was planned by, and foisted upon me by some other force. Supreme being? God? Perhaps my deceased parents persuaded God that I was overdue for a gluteus maximus whooping. In total, I spent about two months in health care facilities. On that evening of November 23, I began to have trouble breathing. I live alone, so I had to suck it up and call 911. I don’t remember the ambulance or anything else that occurred until I woke up in a hospital two weeks later. I was told that I had quit breathing and had to be resuscitated. I had spent the first week of my coma, or “Rip Van Winkle” nap on a respirator. I never had any prior respiration or cardiac issues. During my recovery and rehabilitation in the hospital, I went through horrendous withdrawal experiences, including hallucinations and paranoia. For at least a week I actually thought a nurse was plotting to kill me. In retrospect, this was so silly and embarrassing, I feel the need to return to the hospital and apologize to the staff.
    Now that I’m home and three months tobacco free, my oxygen saturation level has been improving. Now I sleep using an oxygen concentrator and a bi-level CPAP machine. I also have a portable oxygen concentrator that I use with a nasal cannula. I know I can never smoke again, and I’m content with that. I can actually take a long flight or a train ride and not freak out.
    I was a heavy smoker and the ever increasing “cigarette tax” didn’t slow me down. The geniuses responsible for inventing and enacting cigarette tax laws left a huge gaping hole for smokers to walk through. When I was smoking I was legally paying about $10 per carton while most other smokers were paying $60 to $70 (here in Arkansas) per carton. How? Cigar and pipe smokers pay only sales tax. They are exempt from the humongous cigarette tax. Tobacco companies that sell bags of loose tobacco changed the wording on their packages from “Cigarette Tobacco” to “Pipe Tobacco”. Any idiot can figure out that the product in the bag is the cut, consistency and flavor of cigarette tobacco. Changing the label from “Cigarette” to “Pipe” cuts the price from $80 to $14. Using this loose tobacco, a $5 carton of filter tubes, and an easy to use and efficient Top-O-Matic machine, the dedicated smoker can commit suicide on the cheap. One 16oz bag of tobacco makes 2.5 to 3 cartons of cigarettes. For those of you not familiar with this loop hole, I’m not condoning this activity. I am merely revealing this so that the wunderkind of our elected officials can understand what is possible.

  14. Im on day four….its very hard im eating so head hurts but i just keep saying to myself that its all in my head..i close my eyes and think about my kids..and someday running again…its stupid to ever pick up again and then have to go threw this again…im not going to let those stupid things kill me..

  15. I’m on day 3 and I feel like I will soon bite someone’s head off. Anything and everything is a reason to get mad and scream and snap at people for nothing.
    I am known to be a kind and gentle person with opinions but always diplomatic! Honestly, these days, I’m not that kind of person at all.

    I just want to go get a cigarette so I’m back to my old kind self.

  16. I’ve smoked cigarettes since I was 16, I’m 24 today, Today is day 5 with no cigarettes. I’ve decided to quit cold turkey. I have my nicorette gum just in case I feel like I’m going to snap. So far yesterday, day 4 was by far the worst withdrawal phase for me. I would say I went mad.. I felt so angry and aggravated with everything and then moments later sad and depressed. I haven’t really had any cravings for a cigarette, I don’t want one. Ciggarettes don’t taste good. They’re disgusting and smell. Everytime I come inside after smoking I’d have to wash my hand because the smell was so bad. Eventually the withdrawals will go away and I’ll be able to live a healthy smoke free life.

    • Hi Katie. I’m going threw the same thing you’re going threw mad frustrated then Sad and depressed i hate it. How do you deal with it

      • Hi Marco, just remember tomorrow is a new day, no matter how bad today is it’ll all get better and as long as you stay strong you can make it through each day without smoking. Keep busy, for instance, you can go for a walk around the block when your feeling irritable. I’ve bought life savors (hard candy) to help. Where ever I go the candy goes, that may help if you still have cravings.

    • Its best to quit when you are younger and not had smoked for years. You not only have had fewer years of exposure and dependence but you just kind of become more needy of things as you get older, period. Good luck to you, do it now while you are young.

  17. I wonder if anyone heard of this one.

    Every time I stop smoking (yes, I know, stopped and started a few time in my life) I end up sucking my thumb. First it starts in my sleep and it soon spins into my waking hours where I get this incredible compulsion to suck my thumb. When it happens I sneak off somewhere or just close the door to whatever room I may be in, sit down and go at it. Needless to say, I’m WELL beyond the age normally considered for this.

    The thing of it is that sucking my thumb acts in much the same way as smoking does, maybe even better, as I instantly feel calmed by it. Of course we all know that it’s much less socially accepted than smoking, though it really shouldn’t if you think about it.

    This has resulted in my going back to smoking though thumb sucking can be more convenient (inside for instance). Oh, and I’ve tried virtually all the other ways of stopping and, with each one, I still end up sucking my thumb.

    Any ideas?

  18. I quit smoking a week and a half ago some days are harder than others. I’m looking for a support group someone to talk to can anyone help

    • I find this site helpful along with quitnow.Com. I read about my experiences. Mood craving etc. Knowledge is power. Then I’m trying different things to help me cope. Feel free to contact me.

  19. I quit cold turkey 2.5 weeks ago. At about the 2 week point things really hit me. I want to cry or eat most of the time. I’m irritable and gaining weight. I started working out 3 days a week at the same time that I quit. That has helped some but I still feel like I’m at my toughest point so far. Going out in the evening or just going anywhere seems like it won’t be any fun since I can’t smoke. I know how ridiculous that sounds. How long will I continue to be irritable and depressed? Feeling like I am going to be miserable forever!

  20. It’s the end of day 6 after 40 years of smoking I get a cravING. And I do one word search page or color one page. That usually gets me through the craving each time. Now I am getting grumpy. I am not a grumpy person by nature I am going to try some yoga /meditation starting tomorrow

  21. Oh I smoked my last cigarette last Monday night at 11pm. Cold turkey My appetite haa. Picked up. Looking to replace snacks with healthier options. However I have a roommate that has bad eating habits I’m trying to stay away from sweets and salty snacks. For the most part. I treated myself to a Mexican dinner with a good friend yesterday. Helped my mood. Didn’t snack much last night. Keeping a bottle of water handy too

  22. I’m losing it and it’s only day 3. I knew it would be hard, but I didn’t think I would have flashbacks to times that I smoked. I didn’t think I would be clinging to every memory of smoking or thinking of all the places I could be smoking. And I didn’t think the future would keep hitting me like a bus. The idea that -I’ll never smoke again- seems so overwhelming.

    I flipped out at work today, ended up having a panic attack from all the stress, sobbing uncontrollably, and left early. I laid out in the grass for awhile and that helped, but holy shit, this sucks. It’s so incredibly hard but I keep telling myself that I don’t want to revert back to day 3. Anything but reliving this day again is better. It’s better than another cigarette.

    Wrath and pride are definitely my deadly sins and not smoking is making that abundantly clear. I’m more angry than ever and I’m too proud to show people how badly I’m hurting. I just keep reminding myself that I’m fighting an addiction and that doesn’t make me weak. We’re all better than it.

  23. I’ve not smoked for a year now and still craving like mad. Literally could go and buy some. I know that all it will take is one and I will back on them. Can’t believe after all this time it’s still so hard. To be fair I have an addictive personality so probably wouldn’t be like this for many people but I wish I’d never started now knowing the want will always be there in my mind. I was pregnant when I gave up which was alot easier, I didn’t really think about it as I knew I had to give up but now I’ve had the baby I’m struggling a bit. Gave up twice before when pregnant with my other children but ended up smoking again not long after. But this time I’m trying my best to refrain!!

  24. For all those who are strugling with anger problems,the allen carr method of being a happy none smoker is probably the answer,his theory that if we mope about and think of all the reasons why we think we need to smoke are greater than why we should not then we have a problem.We have all stoped for a reason and whatever that reason is does not matter as long as we are happy.the big problem is the brain washing from lots of people including the cigarete manufacturers, they tell us how difficult it is to stop smoking and we all beilieve them,eventually we go back to smoking and go through the whole load of crap untill the next quit attempt. If we all tried to put a positive spin on quitting instead of worriyig about anger over eating, small ailments,nicotine pangs, price of the idiot sticks, alcahol triggers,concentratin problems not sleeping well. and all the other reasons we give to justify going back to the weed,and instead concentrate on being happy that we will not have to kill ourselves anymore, then we all might get somewhere lets try it it might just work.sorry about that rant but i might just have a very good point.

  25. I quit smoking cold turkey around the year 2008 after smoking for over 10 years maarlboro reds, and lights, a pack per day. I tried once, before my final qquit for about 6 months, but I DIDNT quit properly as I was keeping myself from drinking or any of those environments as I knew that would be hard, although I wasn’t even a once per month drinker. So, basically, I was still emotionally addicted, and controlled, and thus. Fearful, hence, why I relapsed. Once I realized the amount of control a stupid measly cigarette had over me, that is when I chose to not let that disgusting habit have its way with me. So I quit a second time cold turkey, and it’s been 8 years now smoke free. I did, however, try a few drags to see after about 6 years how it was, and I didn’t like it, almost made me puke, happy to say. I’ll never regret taking back control of my life… Fuck those controlling cancer sticks!!

  26. I have now quit for 4 years past in jan 2016 but have so many anger issues since stopping i would harm no one but can not understand i gave up and anger started and 4 yrs i am cracking up to try and find out why is this its killing my life.

  27. One of the more intolerable things I have found with quitting is how tired and more “run down” I feel without them. I have to hold out for my family sake but cigarettes have been part of my life for over two decades. I never have been able to quit and didnt really try in the past. Hopeful of success this time. This website seems to help.

  28. I am going on day 6 of being smoke free.
    Within the 2nd-3rd day I noticed a drastic change in my sense of taste and smell. The change has kept me wanting to stay the course and continue to reap the benefits of not smoking. The one thing I will say that I miss from changing my habits are the act of smoking itself not so much the smoke.
    It is an life altering adjustment of 8 years for me and I keep telling myself that with each passing day it WILL get easier and better.
    I have wanted to quit for some time now, actually tried cold turkey my 2nd year of being a smoker and lasted 2 days. The withdraw symptoms were too unbearable for me alone without any cessation aids. My 2nd time was my 6th year of being a smoker and I tried the vaping which only helped me cut back from smoking and I was doing alright for a few weeks, a pack lasted me a week after going through a pack a day. The downside to vaping is you are not breaking the habit. Your still smoking just in a different form, but the act is still there. What works best for me is the 3rd time (now) at quitting. I am using the nicotine patches and it has gotten me this far (almost 6 days smoke free). I still get the urges but its more because I miss smoking in general. The hand to mouth motion is the hardest to break. But the beauty of using the patch is you are still getting nicotine but you are not allowed to smoke on it. So the habit is being broken without the terrible withdraws from quitting cold turkey. However ,Some people can quit cold turkey and it works for them. I smoked 8 years and was pretty addicted so I personally needed another route. My suggestions in fighting the urges are to chew on a straw or gum (keep your mouth busy) to help battle the urges. The best suggestion that I think works is to stay busy!!! Walk, do things at home. When you want a smoke don’t just sit there in misery, get up and do something anything! It truly helps fight the urges and takes your mind off of wanting to smoke. The plus side to quitting is your energy level and ability to breath better goes up so doing more active things will be much easier for you. You will want to walk more and won’t feel so fatigued and tired.
    The biggest lie I told myself when I picked up smoking (socially) was that I wouldn’t let myself become addicted and it took me a couple years to admit to myself and friends and family that I was a smoker. Once you admit to yourself the addiction and seek help is when you can truly break free from the bondage that smoking has on so many people. If you are struggling to quit I hope my experience helps shed light for someone and that you can find the strength to quit. Set your quit date, if even in a month and prepare yourself to quit. Rely on family and friends for support. If you already quit stay the course and don’t give up. The days get easier as time goes on. Good luck to everyone!

    • Also to add to suggestions I have that works for me, Remove the signs associated with smoking. Ash trays, lighters ect. Put them up out of sight out mind. It does help your thought process not having your old ways stare you in the face. I kept my ashtray where I sit at home and on my side of the bed. I immediately moved them out of my sight so I am not tempted to give in. I smoked in my car also and removed traces of smoking there also. At work I sit in my car on breaks now where before I would stand out with the other smokers. It helps me keep my mind focused on my goals. Keeps me from struggling to give in. I am now parking further away in the parking lot as well so I am walking more to get into work. I like writing as well during my progress to have something to look back at and remind me of all the reasons I quit when I feel weak. My main motivator in not giving in is each day I have made it smoke free. I don’t want to start over and if and when I think I want to smoke I remind myself I have made it the # of days I have.

  29. How long will it I take for the anger and rage to subside? My husband and I quit around 10 months ago, and for me outside of the 15 pound weight gain, I have been fine.
    My husband on the other hand is a tyrant. I’m not sure if it’s anxiety, or depression.. He’s put on almost 50 pounds, still is having breathing issues and complains, argues, and goes to battle about everything! Most times being cruel to me, or our kids for no reason and about things that never bothered him. Sometimes I want to tell him to please go have a smoke and calm down…
    He is aware of his behavior and apologizes to everyone after his outbursts, but dang.. I thought these symptoms subsided after about 4 months?

  30. 26 years old started when I was 16.. pack and a half if it’s a long day… I’m going to buy an e-ciggy with no tobacco in it… & Alot of gum… (the teeth whitening kind)
    My problem is I love to smoke and drive.
    As well as what to do 5 minutes before I must walk inside that building quitting day is tomorrow. FML….

  31. Oh man.. whats this,day 3 of none smoking.. woke up this morning for work. Freaked the hell ou.t . Man i was slammin doors yelling screaming. The gf of 3 yrs looked at me wrong and i tore a strip off her… like u wanted to stay home and hide out in all day but nope have to make money.. cold turkey sucks.. and i mean sucks.. how long is this anger gonna last.. how long till im myself again.. because im sure as hell i dont think i can take it

  32. I will be going away to visit some friends next week. I do not want to smoke while I am there. Actually I want to quit and not smoke ever again. But these cigarettes sit here next to me. It seems that every time I say I am going to quit I smoke more. And if I go all evening and all morning the next day then I go and buy them and smoke more than ever. My friends husband is a doctor. They hate smoking.I know that it will be horrendous to smoke and worse to not smoke. Or maybe the other way around. Smoking has isolated me, given me a cough made me hate myself.

  33. I have been smoking for 25 years. My husband has been a smoker for years also. We both are on the nicotine patches to quit smoking. The reason we are both trying quit is because my husband found out that he has throat cancer(Stage 1). And the doctor told him that it was from smoking. I know that I never want another cigarette because its not worth getting cancer and having other problems from smoking. I am 15 days now without a cigarette. But I have been very aggravated lately. The stress from knowing my husband has cancer is getting to me. My husband is struggling to quit. He was a 2 pack a cigarettes a day smoker. Now with the patches, he smokes about 3 to 4 cigarettes a day. His treatment starts soon and he will not be able to smoke at all. God please help us get through these withdrawals and find the patience and understanding to persevere.

  34. Quit smoking from now let’s see who is strong after continuous smoking from eight.and try to quit it from last three year but now I decide from the combination of heart and brain to quit it Now..pray for me..

  35. I quit smoking 12 ish weeks ago – had a few relapses in the first four weeks, so 8 weeks with no smoking at all. Mostly I feel mentally and emotionally so much better than I did when I smoked – and I smoked for 45 years from when I was 13.
    But sometimes, like today. I feel so out of control emotionally – a ranting raging madwoman that can’t be stopped.
    Why is this happening? How long does it really take for the brain to readjust and can it really do that after so many years of nicotine?
    I don’t want to go back to smoking. The difference in me is mostly positive except for when I’m upset.
    The off button has disappeared!
    I used to be a pretty cool customer….
    I wish someone had the real scientific evidence of what happens to the brain when withdrawing from nicotine!

  36. I have stopped smoking on 19th August, 2016 and hope to quit forever. I have tried quitting multiple times before but relapsed due to anger issues. I have to stop this going back because its affecting my Marriage life. Hope to come back here after 1 year with the same status as of now

    • Hey we share the same quitting date. It is also my birthday. It has been 12 days for me. I used chantex to quit. It worked ok seamed to put me on an emotional roller coaster. I stopped taking chantex 2 days ago and I feel better. When we get angry we are stressed. And don’t know how to release it. so we get angry or upset. Same as frustrated, find a way to get rid of the stress. Yoga. Jog, walk, play a sport. Get a dog. Go to counseling Watching tv or movies only increases stress. You have to want to be stress free. Most of it we cause our selves

  37. I have smoked from age 28 to 57. I have to stop. I’ve quit for two years before and I’ve quit for 6 weeks earlier this year. Both times I went back to smoking due to depression and anger. Especially the anger.

    On Sunday, September 4th, 2016 I am quitting at 5:00pm after a family get together. My best friend, who is also a long time smoker is quitting at the same time. We picked a date and time. We are sticking to it.

    Smoking has robbed me of spending time with family and friends who “don’t” smoke. I’ve allowed cigarettes to replace them. One of them was my mother and now she is gone.

    I can’t even believe I am saying that, but it’s true and it makes me so angry with myself that I allowed that. But quite honestly? I like smoking, or should I say “liked”. The past year I realize how much the smoking all these years has taken its toll on my body.

    My biggest fear come Monday morning is that I will have an angry outburst over something stupid and cause problems with those closest to me. Is it anxiety that causes the angery outbursts? Why do I blow up at the drop of a hat when I am not smoking? When I’ve quit in the past, the anger sticks around for a few months or more. It’s caused problems with family and friends, ?

    What can I do to curb the anger and depression? I’m already on medication for depression and anxiety. I don’t want to fail at quitting so I need some advise.

    I plan to continue posting on this site during my withdrawals and share with all of you what I go through. I’m counting on all of you to share ideas with me and I with you, on getting through the withdrawals…

  38. Have quit smoking now for 3 years and have faced all sort withdrawal systems.I can only say there is always light at end of tunnel and am out in the basking sun..Was’t easy if I were not addicted to another habbit-Nature..Indulge in sports heavily.Will help calming down on craving and keep you fresh full day.It helps to get fresh oxygen everyday when you go out exercises in natural surroundings..Not mentioning GYM here.Will again become monotonous.Be with nature and your smoking habbit will leave you..Because your lungs started loving you again..

    Else sooner your lungs will surrender one day if you go on smoking…Just 21 days required to get you out of smoke..Try out your lungs will say to you THANKYOU…Fight for 21 days with your emotions who craves for smoke.You win and will come out more stronger and better person..

  39. A smoker for 30 years. I tried to quit two times. One for 9 months and another time for about three but that was with patches and gum, which never worked. So, this time I found that book by Allen Carr. I dove in and read the 111 pages. He says you must smoke WHILE reading the book and not cut down. I didn’t do either one. It’s been 27 days and I have these waves of “silent rage,” by that, I mean, I have the feelings of rage but without the outward expressions of it. Then it seeps through or erupts in id-like emotional tantrums. I know what triggers my anger and much of it is patience related but then there’s the stress as well although it seems to be calmer and I’m handling it better. It got really ugly the first two three weeks, almost like a narcissistic rage, the addiction, self-centered fear and the self-brainwashing about how difficult it will be to quit cold turkey. It was easier than I thought. HOWEVER, to quote Jean Paul Sarte- “hell, is other people,” it’s people and life that triggers me, so, should I f*cking die?! Then comes the bloating and water retention. I’m really not gaining weight per se but retaining water. So, I drink as much as I can and pee as much as possible to clear out the toxins. I’ve had extreme fatigue, joint & muscle pain and some mild depression, off and on. I felt like the filthy car that fell apart because I was held together by the dirt. Now it just feels like a pedestrian giving me the finger on a hot day, while I drive by in an air-conditioned car. I know these metaphors are strange but this is a strange sensation when you quit in your 50’s. I relate to the majority of posts here and I’m happy I found it. I just needed to RANT!!! So let’s keep it up. It does get better and you will look better and men, you will notice a little something else getting a bit more blood supply than usual- a big plus!

  40. I am 32 & have smoked since I was 9 years old. I have quit many times in the past 2 years, for a week, a month, etc. This time I am shocked- I’ve been drunker than hell, had a huge blow up with my little brother, and spent a full day with my mother- have not even thought of smoking. I feel very confident this is it for me. I have discovered though, I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO DEAL WITH ANGER WOTHOUT CIGARETTES. I feel like things I’ve pushed away in the past by just smoking the stress away, are coming back to haunt me when I’m trying to sleep. I have wrote people letters telling them how I feel about something they did to me in the past, and so far everything I confront had been dealt with quite nicely. This is a daily battle, and I continue to get used to who I am without nicotine. I feel like I’ve just moved my soul into new real estate and there’s a lot of exploring to do. I hope soon I feel at home. Xo

  41. hate nicotine..hate how it has had so much control over me and my life..i hate how cigarettes smell..i hate how they made my hair and clothing and my car stink–it was always an embarrassment to be around non-smokers and feel like they loathe being around you because of the stench of cigarettes..i hated that cigarettes made me feel weak and small, incapable and undisciplined..foolish and fool-hardy..and sick..always coughing and coughing..every single morning..but i would blame it on sinus issues, any excuse i could find..i hated the fear smoking this gigantic monster looming over my head always boasting “i am out to get you and it is just a matter of time”..i hated that i would watch my hard-earned money fly out of my very own hands every single day all the while knowing that money will end up being pocketed by some horrific human beings somewhere on the face of this planet–who are making money by killing other people. sorry if that sounds harsh..just my feelings…i realize it has always been my own choice to smoke..and now it is my own choice to quit..and i have –since October 12th..and I give the whole mess over to God..and rely heavily on His grace to keep me strong day by NICOTINE-FREE day..i am reminded that i was NOT born with a dependency to nicotine..i DID exist without cigarettes for a good portion of my life..and i WAS even happy during that time.. so nicotine is a lie.. a big, fat, ugly LIE..i have always enjoyed physical exercise and bicycle riding in particular..and i want to be able to continue doing things that i love..that I LOVE more than cigarettes..people put the darn things down..put them away forever..cast them as far from your life as possible.. do whatever is necessary to distance them from you..from your life..and if enduring seasons of anger or depression or irritability be it.. find a safe outlet.. cry, pout, kick and scream..whatever needs it and then stand up..wash the tears away..take a huge deep deep from the inside out..go buy yourself something small that you greatly enjoy..or call a friend..go for a walk in the sunshine and even take your an old favorite movie..something grand that cradles your heart…and enjoy the freedom and joy you CAN have for as long as you desire..Determine your own reasons for quitting..write them them as often as possible..even to the point of cherishing them..make them bigger than your desire to smoke..YOU CAN DO THIS..Celebrate Your Recovery!!! Let your body enjoy getting well…even if it goes through a tough process doing so..Smiles from a fellow NON SMOKER…

  42. Ok just split up with new girlfriend. She managed to irritate the hell out of me on Day two of not smoking (yesterday).

    Having reviewed the texts I probably did slightly over-react though I am not sure in a post-smoking environment I really want people around me that try to get a reaction of me. Especially people that lack the sense of self-preservation to avoid annoying me when they know I am giving up smoking.

    In a way I suppose it is cathartic. Post smoking I might be less of an emotional wreck than I am today but I will have to handle emotions and I won’t be able to be someone that just puts up with silliness.

    It is difficult to know though as I am in the middle of this thing whether I should apologise or even consider what she or I did in light of the fact that looking today at the series of escalating and ever longer rant texts (of mine) and her quite short, far less frequent, and slightly more coherant texts it seems that perhaps I did go overboard but that I was right to be annoyed. Any advice? I am currently really proud of myself for not giving in and smoking and perhaps it was between her and me smoking.

  43. I started smoking at 11 on and off. But this time it seems really hard I try to avoid as much as possible. Now that I don’t smoke I cry for every Lil thing and all I want to do is sleep can someone please tell me if that’s normal….. by the way I stopped on Friday so it’s been 3 days now and I feel like I can’t do it…….

    • I posted this message as a reply to the first message. I hope this helps you:
      I know it’s been a while since you posted your comment but I want to say that I quit smoking cold turkey in the first week of November 2016 (I can’t even remember the day) and I have not had any cigarettes ever since. I do not want to smoke and I don’t feel the need to smoke. I want to mention that I was a chain smoker for about 7-8 years, smoking up to 30 cigarettes per day, or even 40-50 when I was out and drinking. I have mentally prepared myself for more than a year, thinking about how bad the taste is, how awful my clothes smell, how it damages my body, what are the actual processes inside my body affected by smoking…basically I was making myself aware of how bad it is to smoke, convincing myself that I will quit one day but I need to be conscious about how damaging it is to smoke. Then in October 2016 I got sick, caught a cold, continued smoking, then it got worse and I have been diagnosed with pneumonia and I had liquid trapped in one of the lungs (I’m 27 y.o.). Before going to the doctor I promised myself I would quit smoking if I were to be diagnosed with pneumonia (again, this was my second pneumonia in a year, never having it before in my whole life), and I did it. Now, I feel awesome, started going to the gym almost daily, I have a lot of energy, the taste and smell is better, my clothes don’t smell anymore, I am eating healthy and cook a lot (I have to say that you get a lot of time after quitting smoking), and basically enjoy everything EXCEPT for one thing: I became an emotional rollercoaster and my filters are almost gone. I am either depressed or euphoric, I get angry real fast, I spit fire…I feel awful about that. This is the only thing that bothers me and, unfortunately, although I don’t crave cigarettes anymore, I’m thinking about starting again because I am such an emotional rollercoaster, but then again I enjoy the other benefits…my guess would be that I have to work more on managing my emotions and that’s it. I hope every single one of you can quit smoking and keep it that way! And don’t forget, before quitting cold turkey, TRAIN YOUR BRAIN TO HATE CIGARETTES WHILE YOU’RE STILL SMOKING! THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT, TO DO IT BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY QUIT AND IT TAKES TIME! Good luck!!!

    • Hey Maria, first of all you are doing great, just hang in there. I feel the same. Previously I smoke around 30 cigs a day, but I quit cold turkey this Friday. I know it is really hard to get sleep but if we pass this there are some good things waiting for us. So just keep up the thing

  44. Some very interesting replies.
    Im into my umpteenth attempt at quitting. Ive got patches and other NRTs.
    Its easier but accept that true cold turkey better.

    So onto the anger.
    I knew this was coming as i had quit before. Had a bout yesterday.
    Something occurred to me that hadn’t before.
    For me its like PTSD. I could sense it building up but when exploding it is almost like i have no conscious knowledge it is happening to me (and everyone else).
    Its almost a out of body experience and slightly terrifying.
    Everything and everybody becomes utter irritating. The venom is terrifying. Like a different person.

    My only recompense is that i recognise this can happen and to start thinking on how to deal with this. Having a cigarette just isn’t an option for me or something i think about as a way to deal with the problem so that is good.

    But good to read everyone’s input. Good luck everybody.

  45. Hi. I am 10 weeks in on quitting cold. In the beginning I had terrible crying jags that could last for a couple of days. That’s gotten a little better, but my anger towards my family (husband, daughter and dogs!) has become a problem. It’s not a constant, but it’s ugly, mostly with my husband. My daughter irritates but I can handle it better. Same with dogs. I asked my husband for a separation last night while weeping hysterically. We’ve had issues before, but this is so over the top. Anyone out there that’s been through this??

    • Amy, I’m 33 days in and the anger is out of control. Mine is directed to my daughter and let me tell you I feel like I am this insane deranged woman. Never knew it could be this bad. Not only that I am still obsessing on smoking. I think about from the minute I wake up and it leaves me edgy and angry. I hope that you can work things out with your husband, but just wanted to let you know about the angry part. I am about to give in to it all since I find the obsession and anger just depletes me each day.

  46. I quit smoking three years ago, and then lit up a year and a half later because of stress. I tried going cold turkey this past summer, and caved on day four because I was stressed, and irritable, and cranky, and I didn’t like that. I have surgery coming up again soon, a wedding this summer, and I want to be able to save money, so I’m trying to quit again. The past three nights in a row, I’ve gone to bed with a nicotine patch on, positive that I could go smoke free. Well, every morning after not having a cigarette since before I put the patch on the night before, until around 11, 12 or 1 in the afternoon, I feel the irritability and stress, so I rip the patch of and light up to reduce the anxiety. I am an incredibly addictive personality, and just smelling one or feeling angry, or stress can trigger a craving. I’m on another medication as well as the patch to help with the cravings and irritability, but this so hard. Any advice on resisting the temptation, dealing with the irritability and stress, or resisting the behavior of ripping off the nicotine patch and lighting up? I really want to quit, but I know the anxiety and irritability will surface soon. Please help.

  47. I quit 25 days ago, I am the most nasty angry person right now, broke down and have cried hysterically until I have a massive headache and yes I just went and bought a pack of cigarettes and smoked one. Have I ruined it? Can I get back up in the morning and pretend that never happened? Do I need to start with day 1 again? Damn this sucks!

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